To BF one baby longer than the other

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I bf my first for 4 months and Im now pregnant with another baby. All being well, I'd like to go on longer than 4 months but I kinda feel bad that I'm not giving them equal starts.

Thoughts?

No it’s fine. The thought has crossed my mind before tbh.

DC1 - flogged a dead horse with BF - by 4 months he was super skinny and an official ‘failure to thrive’
DC2 - ff from day 2 as was traumatised from DC1 chomping at my boob constantly for 4 months
DC3 - tried BF but didn’t make enough to flush out jaundice and I wasn’t willing to sit pumping for hours (never had success pumping) with 2 other kids around. So BF probably for 6 weeks until eventually full formula.

You’ll look around school/nursery etc and have no clue who was BF for how long and who wasn’t.

DD1 got 10 days EBF.

DD2 got 6 months EBF and then weaned at natural term age 5 and half years.

It doesn't have to be an issue. Your experience with your second will be very different anyway because you have another child to care for. I breast fed dd1 which was an awful experience for me and then had ds shortly after. I didn't breastfeed him or dd2.

Its great to have an idea of things you might want to do differently but there's no need to stress yourself when baby isn't even here yet.