My child with ASC is disabled. Spend 18 hours of the day with me and you’ll agree. It’s disabling to him, not be able to walk in a classroom without experiencing a meltdown and sensory overload. To be able to ‘manage’ school for 1 hour a day with a 1:1 in the library or breakout area. It’s disabling to not manage birthday parties, or have no awareness of how to play with other children or have friends.
To experience meltdowns for over an hour. To, at times be so aggressive that I can be punched in the head, scratched, bitten until I bleed and being told how stupid I am and how much he hates me- is disabling. To be, at times in an abusive relationship, but the abuser is my son and there is no support.
For my 5 year old to cry because “I want to be able to have friends mummy” is not just disabling but heartbreaking.
To have to fight to get anywhere with the county council because they won’t fund an adequate education.
To give up 15 years of classroom experience, 2 degrees and a life outside of the house- where being inside I’m controlled and at times, abused.
I could go on for days about it’s impact, but I won’t.
Yes- autism is a disability, but I suspect you know that.