To ask DH to share night feeds

[penmusgrav]

The situation:

DH works full time - never from home he's up and out 7-4

Im home with the baby who is 7 months:

Ive just started a business from home early stages not making profit yet, will be in the next 3 months but still not loads.

Up until now i have done all night feeds in week and he does most of the weekend.

AIBU to ask him to help with night feeds in the week? Its really getting the better of me i am so drained.

I think he feels like this is how it should be, and although im working on the business as its not bringing the money in then it doesn't count?

For anyone that thinks he should be helping, whats the reasoning for it?

I sometimes try to explain why i think it should be more shared then end up going to back to agreeing with him!

DS is 3 months and sleeps through now but we shared night feeds when he didn't and I was on maternity leave. I wouldn't accept any other way.

Why on earth can't you tell him to share it, not ask him but tell him?? He has really easy hours, and can easily help. I'm a sahm, dh works a really stressful job 7 - 7pm and still helps with the nights. I have a 4m old. He does the 9pm and the 5am feed and I do it in between, so I get some sleep in the morning and from 8:30 - 11/12am. Are you even being serious asking if he's done at 4pm that he shouldn't do any feeds?

I think you need to think about stopping the the night feeds at 7 months.

DH worked full time but is a night owl so he used to do anything up to midnight and I did anything after that. I went to bed very early so we barely saw each other during the week but we both got some sleep.

Why not just discuss it.

I am sure he will be happy to have a weekend night of full sleep too.

Surely you could choose when you drove though, you weren't obligated to drive every day at set times whether you were to tired or not?

Quite a lot of mums on mat leave will be driving the school run