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To not buy my baby a first birthday present?

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baxtersm · 09/03/2023 18:29

Baby boy is coming one at the start of April and I'm really thinking of not buying him a present this year. He's my fourth baby and I've just realised over the years that the amount of plastic tat they get is ridiculous and unnecessary. And they don't play with half of it anyway, give him a remote control or a mobile phone and he's happy! My mum says I'm being a bit mean and that he needs a present but I don't want to buy just for the sake of it, he won't have a clue. Obviously when he's old enough to know it's his birthday it'll be different.

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The name obviously alerted my suspicions too. It did read quite formally which I guess you would expect from a more professional AI compared to a post about birthday presents. That’s really interesting though!

showstopper100 · 10/03/2023 10:52

Just buy him one nice present/keepsake. Or do him a party instead.

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The day out is actually a good suggestion for younger children, with older siblings. Vouchers are good from relatives who want to spend on a child that doesn't need anything. I've bought soft play/zoo vouchers in the past. I'd take the older ones to a discount shop and let them choose books for him. Usually bath and out door toys need replacing, but I agree with not buying for the sake of it.

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Wishawisha · 10/03/2023 11:04

My children have never once asked me what we got them for their first birthdays. So unlikely to come up.

I didn’t get my 2nd a present but we had a cake and I did spend some money on an activity so that the day was one that we would remember fondly.

For her first Christmas she got a lot of old baby toys from older sibling too that I’d managed to stash away. I agree that there is so much tat around it’s better to avoid if possible.

Sugarfree23 · 11/03/2023 01:12

Give the age of the other children, presumably at least one or two are school age, they are likely to question why their baby sibling never got a birthday gift.

It doesn't need to be £££, a new ball, Teddy, some clothes, bath toys, even a new sippy cup & plate just some little things for sibling to help the baby open and so they realise the baby is as important as the rest of them

zaksmum1 · 11/03/2023 01:20

Taking my 1 year old to a lovely water park she loves to swim so she'll have a lovely day out
Gonna bake her a cake and probably get her a small silly toy just so she has something to unwrap
Keep it simple
They won't remember but it's still nice to look back at for her/him and you

Cassiehopes · 11/03/2023 02:16

We didn’t. One year olds don’t need presents, a meaningless gesture.

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