Page 7 | AIBU to not give a shit about my job?

Leftbutcameback · 08/03/2023 23:13

I’m also fortunate in that where I work now there is no expectation that you need to progress if you don’t want to. It’s enough to be good at your job, be interested in the work, do the hours, and then enjoy the rest of your time yourself. My old career and employer had a written “up or out” policy.

Spectre8 · 08/03/2023 23:29

blueshoes · 08/03/2023 22:50

I agree. It must be soul destroying to work like this. I have people who report to me who have been in the job for more than a decade and are clearly are going through the motions (but making the right noises occasionally) and not learning much in order not to take on more responsibilities. They are doing the bare minimum. I am currently working on automating their roles (as one other poster said, using AI) so that I need fewer of them and can go out and hire more enthusiastic employees with a better skill set. If only they applied their minds more they would not be easily replaced by machines.

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Ao once you've automated these roles and your staff are let go, why do they need tou? You no longer have people to manage and everything they did is automated. If I was above you and the company had to downsize or save money I would be thinking we don't need you anymore.

katepilar · 08/03/2023 23:37

I think its partly a man thing, the goals, the aiming higher and higher etc. No wonder it doesnt suit us women.

TortolaParadise · 08/03/2023 23:39

Could be post covid burn out. We have all been through enough lately in every which way.

letthemalldoone · 08/03/2023 23:40

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Mumwithbaggage · 08/03/2023 23:45

Hate my job (teacher) but do give 100 plus per cent for the kids. Management don't.

Well, I love the teaching/with the children bit. But I have five observations this week. Again. I am not a teacher with any issues/complaints/problems. Over qualified and work hard.

DH's recent payrise was the equivalent of my annual salary. He's also excellent at his job (obviously not public sector :) )but gets paid for it. Works fewer hours than me and has more autonomy. I've had enough.

blueshoes · 08/03/2023 23:46

Spectre8 · 08/03/2023 23:29

Ao once you've automated these roles and your staff are let go, why do they need tou? You no longer have people to manage and everything they did is automated. If I was above you and the company had to downsize or save money I would be thinking we don't need you anymore.

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The company needs me because I do the thinking side of the role. My reports prefer not to apply their brains and just do robotic processing. The company can automate the robotic side of the role to a certain extent but the company still needs me to make analyse and make judgment calls and deal with senior management and the authorities. I would love to train one of my reports to move up a gear and take over more of the thinking but they just want me to give them the answers when it gets even just a little complicated and are content to stick to their 9-5 easy roles. That's ok but we can use machines for that. I prefer to work with systems rather than people because people take leave, go off sick, slow quit and all kinds.

StuartBroadBarmyArmy · 08/03/2023 23:57

I nearly drove myself to an early grave working flat out before children. For what? To earn the partners their slice of money? No thanks. I do what is required and do it well, but that's it. I resent time spent away from my family. I work my hours. I collect my pay.

One of the top regrets of the dying is working too much and living the life they thought others expected of them. That's not going to be me.

ClairDeLaLune · 08/03/2023 23:58

Same here OP. Performance review meeting? No thanks, I don’t give a flying fuck!

marblemad · 09/03/2023 00:40

Same except this is a brand new job I'm in and feel like this, I'm feeling so miserable and the job they advertised was not the job that I am having to do. I've also been really ill with an infection and they have been nothing but rude about the situation I'm done with it to be honest. I've gone off sick due to the infection and I am looking for new work immediately, looking at places I turned down due to this role predominantly and I already have an interview scheduled for Friday and a phone interview scheduled for tomorrow afternoon. I think the biggest things putting me off are that the role is completely different and exactly what I didn't want, management are incompetent to put it lightly and I made them aware I was a carer and of the hours I was available - ie that I could do up to full time but couldn't work past 4pm as I take over from my family member 3 nights a week to care for my sibling. Instead work have repeatedly ignored this and put me on the latest possible shift for the business, doing over the hours advertised and not finishing til around 7pm!

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 09/03/2023 01:02

Why not get a job you'll enjoy and leave that one for someone desperate for it.
Sounds quite selfish.

Saturnsmoon · 09/03/2023 01:31

MargaritMargo · 08/03/2023 21:04

I ask myself a lot because I have a partner who is VERY passionate about their job, it really is a vocation for them. I don’t have that, I am not passionate about anything so much that I’d want to chase a career in it.

There’s nothing that calls to me, I’m happy to do a job well that I enjoy in the moment but isn’t a “calling” or meaningful.

I guess the conclusion is that not everyone has to find meaning in a job. It’s lovely that some people do, but it’s perfectly acceptable to just earn a living and find meaning elsewhere.

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So I think this is my issue. I really don’t care about my job, I dread going in but not because it’s a bad job, relatively senior with a social impact, not too stressful with pleasant colleagues however the real reason it makes me miserable is because I feel like I’m wasting my time / life / skills doing something that is unfulfilling to me. The problem is I don’t know what my ‘calling’ is and the idea of just going in to another job that I find equally unfulfilling fills me with dread. I don’t know what the answer is but part of me is getting to the point where perhaps I just need to get over the disappointment of not having ‘a calling’.

Saturnsmoon · 09/03/2023 03:03

Mumwithbaggage · 08/03/2023 23:45

Hate my job (teacher) but do give 100 plus per cent for the kids. Management don't.

Well, I love the teaching/with the children bit. But I have five observations this week. Again. I am not a teacher with any issues/complaints/problems. Over qualified and work hard.

DH's recent payrise was the equivalent of my annual salary. He's also excellent at his job (obviously not public sector :) )but gets paid for it. Works fewer hours than me and has more autonomy. I've had enough.

Yes my husband’s annual bonus was more than three times my annual salary. I work in the public sector and he works in the private sector. He is great at his job and works very hard so I’m pleased for him/us but the absurdity of the difference in amounts for both doing the same number of hours a week is hard to ignore.

chanceofpear · 09/03/2023 07:24

I want to progress but only because i want more money. I earn just shy of 6 figures. Am pretty well paid for my 9-5 remote role where flexibility is encouraged. I have dinner with my children every night and can pick them up feom school if i want to. I haven't worked my full hours since i started (but am pretty quick at doing the work given to me as I am overqualified).

Yoshithegreen · 09/03/2023 07:28

This is me! I work to earn money, my redundancy package would be great and I would 100% take it if offered. I care about the people and work hard for them but not the business. I don’t buy into this business is amazing etc. it’s a business making money for an investment board…they do not care about me. Take as much money as possibly for the smallest amount of effort!

CleaningOutMyCloset · 09/03/2023 07:39

Stringme · 08/03/2023 19:35

I have always been a high achiever and work in a professional career with security, good pay, high responsibility and endless scope for progression. I get lots of opportunities to develop myself as a leader etc etc.

It’s a job most people consider to be worthwhile and important BUT I just don’t care. I want to do the bare minimum and then log off. I feel like I’m constantly pretending to care about my personal goals, what I want to achieve etc. Everyone else is so keen and thinks the work is so important.

Am I the only one pretending or do other people do this?

Yep this is me. I realised a few years ago that im 10 years off retirement and my motivation is now on the floor.

I enjoy my job, but I don't actually give a rats arse about why it needs to be done

I was offered a promotion recently, but turned it down as I knew it would involve more responsibility and managing people (urghhhh).

lazycats · 09/03/2023 07:41

The op seems to have fucked off, but there’s nothing wrong with doing the bare minimum at work. By definition it’s what you’re paid for.

Timingiseverythingcoll · 09/03/2023 07:52

Toxic work culture and bullying, crazy hours and expectations, ridiculous targets… this is why I’m self employed. I make all the decisions and feel like I’m using my time and skills in a positive way. For the hours that suit me. I’m learning all the time.

There are downsides of course - smaller pension and no paid holiday or sickness, but it’s better than kissing arse, pretending you care about the company’s BS ‘values’ and dying inside!

KimberleyClark · 09/03/2023 07:56

ImAvingOops · 08/03/2023 19:51

I think there's a tendency for employers to believe there's something wrong with an employee if they are not constantly on a quest for personal/professional development. But there's nothing wrong in people being happy to just do their existing job well, and not care about climbing the greasy pole. It's not a character defect to not want to constantly go on courses or work extra time in order to get promoted!

Some people love their work, want to progress etc and that's great for them. But its equally okay to just want to do your job and go home and focus more on your life outside of work.

Couldn’t agree more. I retired 4 years ago from a place like, this, civil service equivalent. Nothing wrong with wanting to progress, nothing wrong with being happy as you are either. I was so glad to get out.

Knitterofcrap · 09/03/2023 09:51

Not everyone who is cruising dislikes their job.

I really like mine, but I am massively overqualified for it so can do it in less than half the time allotted and spend the rest of my time doing whatever I want. I’m still considered to be one of the top performers in my organisation.

I am not interested in more responsibility so I don’t apply for promotion. I earn plenty for my needs and am saving so I can give adult DC a flat deposit each when I retire in five years.

Why would I work more than I have to? And no, AI could not do most of my job.

Arsewangry · 09/03/2023 09:58

Same. It pays the bills just about but I couldn't give a single shiny one about any of it.

Neededanewuserhandle · 09/03/2023 10:00

YANBU work is a load of old bollocks.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 09/03/2023 10:46

What women fought for all these years and continue to only for people to behave as if they don't have options.

Driven by greed and selfishness. Quit and find something you feel is worth your time then. No one is chained to their job.
If you hate the company/boss then why spend years being fake when you could be happier elsewhere.

Except most love a cushy life at the expense of others and too lazy to look elsewhere or not brave enough.
Lots of people who would love some of these jobs, would put in the effort required and get fulfilment out of it.

Interesting how women are quick to demand equal pay yet want to do the bare minimum.

I've had jobs I hated and couldn't stand even though they paid well.
I left for my sanity, which is the logical thing to do, instead of moaning and blaming everyone else.

Work-shy Britain all over....

lazycats · 09/03/2023 10:48

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 09/03/2023 10:46

What women fought for all these years and continue to only for people to behave as if they don't have options.

Driven by greed and selfishness. Quit and find something you feel is worth your time then. No one is chained to their job.
If you hate the company/boss then why spend years being fake when you could be happier elsewhere.

Except most love a cushy life at the expense of others and too lazy to look elsewhere or not brave enough.
Lots of people who would love some of these jobs, would put in the effort required and get fulfilment out of it.

Interesting how women are quick to demand equal pay yet want to do the bare minimum.

I've had jobs I hated and couldn't stand even though they paid well.
I left for my sanity, which is the logical thing to do, instead of moaning and blaming everyone else.

Work-shy Britain all over....

What a silly moan. Apart from anything else:

I've had jobs I hated and couldn't stand even though they paid well.
I left for my sanity, which is the logical thing to do, instead of moaning and blaming everyone else.

This has nothing to do with what the op's point.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 09/03/2023 10:58

lazycats · 09/03/2023 10:48

What a silly moan. Apart from anything else:

I've had jobs I hated and couldn't stand even though they paid well.
I left for my sanity, which is the logical thing to do, instead of moaning and blaming everyone else.

This has nothing to do with what the op's point.

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You're silly.