Mumsnet can be really quite an unpleasant place these days it used to be so supportive and fun.

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I don't really go on Twitter but I gather it can be vicious.

Mumsnet was so helpful and also used to have me rolling on the floor laughing at times. I guess I am just being nostalgic. I still like a little wanter around the active threads near to knocking off work time but it usually just makes me feel a little bit sad about the world now.

I know we don't tend to like it when people have a different opinion from us but I don't think we need to be nasty. I have some unusual opinions at times but try to put them across politely but there is no tolerance for differing opinions at all.

Feeling a bit blue. Might need a session on Netmums to even it out.

This might be my last post if I come back and have been fully roasted for saying this but hey, life moves on I guess.

There was a thread like this last week and on it at least one poster put a link to similar threads from, like, 2010 and earlier.

I’m not sure what has happened here with you OP, but if MN is not making you happy just sack it off for a bit.

There is one every few days.

Just take a break. Social media is not mandatory.

It's always been like that ,well in the past 13 years I have been on it .

Yeah, I've been called a bitch today 😆 I think it's entertaining though, when people who don't know you are trying really hard to get to you.

Oh my God, really?

This has to be an organised whatsapp group posting these threads for a laugh.😅

I don't think it's a recent thing but I do think it's only AIBU that is the harsh bit. The more specific forums can be very helpful and supportive.

As a long lifer I too am a bit puzzled at how nasty and mocking people can be on here. I have just given genuine, hard won advice on a problematic money situation to an OP and some goady poster has sneered about the OP being a troll and how pathetic and thick it is to respond. Even if the OP was a troll (and I don't believe she is) it's up to me if I choose to respond and give advice because a) I am an autonomous human being who can decide what I want and b) there might be others reading who can also benefit from advice too. I don't know why some people feel it's okay to become thread gatekeepers who tell others what to do and sneer as though they are above others. We all breathe, shit and die the same, some people would do well to remember that.

Been like it for years and will not change, have a break.

Try flounders corner?

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it can be incredibly helpful and lovely and funny.

aibu can be a bit of a cesspit though.

Are these threads recruiting for that new forum because it sure feels like someone's going to mention it any post now.

I was going to say flounce but thought better of it lol

You’re not wrong, sometimes I stumble across a thread from 2011 or something and they are SO lovely! Everyone also seems to know each other and refer to each other by usernames which is nice. I’m sure there were still bad ones like the above mentioned by PP.

People especially on AIBU can be so vile to each other and the OP! One of my threads pondering a thought I had about a current event got so extreme it was deleted which I was very pleased about as it meant I didn’t need to check the replies and feel stressed anymore 😂

At the same time, mumsnet is one of the coolest places on the internet to read about the varied ins and outs of human lives! So it is still good on balance.

I wonder if an upvote/downvote button on comments would be a good idea so that we are able to police impolite comments better. But then you might end up with less discussion as people vote instead of comment and try to get “karma” like on reddit.

The best thing we can do is police each other and call out unnecessary rudeness/personal attacks when we see them.

Oh another 'I remember when all this was fields' posts. It's still great OP, you might just need a break.

Any minute now

I think there ought to be a flounders corner for those who feel that they’re out of their depth on MN!

You really do need to don your hard hat it seems at the moment. I find it galling when someone asks for help and gets driven away by poster after poster hammering them down.
When I get fed up I leave and then return when I feel mentally stronger

Oh God this again.

I mean I don't even disagree really but these threads are relentless and boring and ironically, probably spoiling Mumsnet for those who are fed up of them 🙄

I actually find twitter is often more supportive.

I think it is a strange site. But not more so than some others. Sadly, Mumsnet need to ( and they have started recently) set clearer standards. They tolerate language which is unnecessary.
Sometimes you feel people post in a certain way for a reaction.
Sometimes people seem unable to allow people to have a different opinion without resorting to vile language, insults and phrases that really demean the person saying them.
And there are some posters or responders who are very political and slate anyone who has a different opinion to theirs. Tolerance is not their thing.

The best thing would be for posters to get the message that language and insults are really not acceptable. That is up to Mumsnet.

I agree. I joined MN when I was pregnant with DS in 2014 and found it amazing during the baby and toddler years with both DC. So supportive. I took a break then returned to ask a question in the summer. Oh my. I was ripped to shreds, people saying things like 'I know the type of person you are' 'are you always this awful OP' etc. Bit taken aback but I've learned not to post in AIBU anymore🤣

Go to Chat or 30 Days only or even the more specific sub forums. People have been phenomenally helpful to me in Higher Education, for instance.

I've been here a long time too and am getting to the point where my youngest is nearly finished school.

Is the culture of the next generation of parents different?

Its threads like the dog bashing ones that are so tedious. Nobody has a balanced view for one thing and the endless posts achieve nothing but a hate for dogs.

I really think people who post on a thread with the sole intention of making people feel worse are deeply unhappy in their lives and are trying to have some control over how people see them.