Mumsnet can be really quite an unpleasant place these days it used to be so supportive and fun.

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I don't really go on Twitter but I gather it can be vicious.

Mumsnet was so helpful and also used to have me rolling on the floor laughing at times. I guess I am just being nostalgic. I still like a little wanter around the active threads near to knocking off work time but it usually just makes me feel a little bit sad about the world now.

I know we don't tend to like it when people have a different opinion from us but I don't think we need to be nasty. I have some unusual opinions at times but try to put them across politely but there is no tolerance for differing opinions at all.

Feeling a bit blue. Might need a session on Netmums to even it out.

This might be my last post if I come back and have been fully roasted for saying this but hey, life moves on I guess.

In all honesty I think it's a bit reflective of life at the moment, many people seem to be so confrontational and determined to make someone else feel miserable for the sake of it, like a power trip or something.

Yawn. Boring. There's similar posts regularly. I've been here 18 years and I still like it. It's still as supportive and as funny.

I do find that post-pandemic and with the CoL crisis, people are exhausted, anxious, and there is competition over who has it worst. It comes to a head on social media.

Nah it's always been like this.

The problem is people post in AIBU for traffic, but don't like responses, there is usually a specific forum for what they ask but they want 'traffic' then you get what you sow.

Always makes me eye-roll/laugh when people who don't use Twitter shudder about how awful it must be. It can be wonderful, just like MN. It can be arse, just like MN. Don't be scared of it and don't use it if you don't want to, it's okay.

Twitter, MN, your newfangled forum, Reddit, wherever...they'll have peaks and troughs, good and bad, relevant and irrelevant (to you). If somewhere is getting you down, log off for a little bit and come back if it tickles your fancy.

If MN exists in 2033, there'll be threads reminiscing about now. That's life.

I will leave rather than ever post in AIBU! But as I said, the sub-forums are full of lovely, kind, funny people. Money seems to be a very tricky subject these days, but then it is so even in real life.

^This. Some wonk posts this exact thing most weeks. It isn't true that MN is "nastier" in my opinion.

What is the new forum? I've not seen any mention of it.

Or people who really like flat fish?

I've been on MN since my 21 year old was born and its always been savage

I posted an innocent thread about 8 years ago now, on a long-forgotten username, and got absolutely ripped to shreds. It did just make me laugh as I can't take random people on the Internet having a go for something trivial all that seriously, but that was almost a decade ago and people were still vicious at times.

Stay off Chat. Stay off AIBU. Don't ask people if you calling your child Toastina is a good idea.
The rest of Mumsnet is fine.

I hear what you are saying op and agree but there have been quite a number of these threads recently where the op posts this opinion and then fails to respond after that. It’s beginning to look quite suspicious, like an organised campaign to undermine the site.

I apologise sincerely if your post is genuine, but I want to make clear that although Mumsnet has changed and there are a lot of unnecessarily nasty posts, there are still some places on the site which are very supportive and helpful and Mumsnet is one of the few places left where women’s voices can be heard unfiltered through other media, and that’s really, really important.

Plus I think it is up to the posters who value the site to call out nasty comments a bit more than previously and I think that is starting to happen.

Mmmm... I've been on here for 19 years and the cliqueness of everyone back then saying hello to each other was very much to the detriment of the invisibles who weren't part of the gang. It's just different now

Same happened to me a decade ago, I dared to walk my dog through a field of sheep and a demented farmer let off a shotgun over my head, the amount of folk defending the farmer was unreal! I was very calm but I still remember it. Certainly wasn't all sweetness and light back then !

Thanks for the inspiration, Toastina is a great name.

Nope. Always been like this. I remember some proper twats around in about 2009/10. It was more cliquey too, with the same names jumping on to every thread and feeling every so slightly smug because they spent all their time on an online forum and knew people here.

One thing I have noticed recently is MRAs and incels popping up on threads - often on AIBU or relationships and victim-blaming OPs as well as gas-lighting them and saying things like "If this was a man posting" MN would be saying the opposite. They usually show up when an OP is posting about difficulties in a relationship with a man, often abusive relationships, pushing their own agenda. They need cracking down on. I can think of 3 usernames off hand which I suspect belong to MRAs and incels.

I've been here a long time
one of my earliest posts was about Brexit and I got told off by loads off posters for making up a stupid word! 😂😂

apart from that, it was pretty nice. Now it's...different.

Ah the wonderful days when it was all fields.
Then the estates were built. We all knew where that would lead.

Twas ever thus.

This might be my last post

There is a Flouncer’s Corner if you’r interested.

Yep. Like when the bat signal would go out and they'd all descend on a thread "well hellair you mwah mwah <insert random in-jokes that nobody knew what the fuck they were on about>"

What is the new site? I don’t go on here that much so not seen.

Good answer thanks!

I think it peaks and troughs as I regularly have to take a break because I'm out off by the meanness, then I come back and it's fine until it isn't.

Everyone is getting more entitled and less patient I find.