Hello everyone, I8 homeschooled my middle child for three years from Year 3 onwards because she was falling behind quite significantly academically. The school said she was very sociable, cheerful and friends with everyone in the class. She was just falling behind in her maths and literacy. I took her out to homeschool as she wanted it too, her self esteem was becoming very low in school, she kept saying things like, "I'm no good at anything and I have the memory of a fish." Anyway, fast forward to September 2022, I sent her back to another school having caught her up and actually achieving beyond her years. She is studying towards the 11+ now. School say she is top of the class academically but is suffering a little socially. Totally the opposite of what her early years were like. They said she gets upset when kids say things to her. She has friends and is generally happy to go into school but can't understand why children say mean things even when they get told off and told not to do it again. I've told her to ignore them and walk away. But I feel like she is just being told to put up with immature, nasty behaviour. Her teacher keeps saying she needs to be more "streetwise". She's mature, loves conversations with all sorts of older children and adults alike. She has had so many home educated and school going friends and clubs where she never had problems like this. Maybe because the kids were generally kind and mature. The teacher again has said she needs to be more streetwise at parents' evening yesterday.Kids in her class are saying things like, do you want to see a vape? Your mum told me you're adopted. Let's wrap you up in a package and post you off to another country because your parents don't want you. They make sex noises, they're also calling teachers hot and sexy. There's a clique of girls in the class and she was told she is their target to make fun of by another child who is part of the clique. When they play games in the playground, they keep saying to her you cheated or you didn't score a goal, when in fact she did, but they will gang up and say no you didn't to make her feel bad about herself. It's just the collective, repetitive pattern of behaviour that is happening every week. I've told her to say stuff back to them but she never does. She said she says ti them that's not nice and walks away from the situation and they will follow her and she feels she is being antagonised. I've done role play at home with her too to help her deal with these comments but she still gets upset sometimes.I'm trying my very best to be objective here and not be too precious about my girl. Is this normal behaviour for children in primary school? Does she just need to be more tough? I've told her to be more tough but I feel massively guilty that maybe I'm not speaking up for her. She's a sensitive child generally (she will cry watching sad movies or get upset if she hears another child's parent is severely ill or has died) and she was a prem baby, she should have been born end of September but was born 2nd August instead so I'm quite conscious she is a year behind emotionally compared to her cohort, the majority who are already 10.AIBU if I complain to the HT about the class behaviour? Or is this normal, expected behaviour in schools and she should just toughen up and accept it?