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Thepowerofawoman · 2023-03-07T23:33:29+00:00

He's obviously not as he doesn't have a womb. DP plays 5 a side once a week with his mates, they are all 30+ Recently DP has put on a bit on weight (around half a stone) and it's gone straight to his belly - to be honest I actually prefer him with a bit of a 'dad bod' but for reference, DP is 5'9 and 13 stone (so a little overweight if you look at the BMI). He's come home from football the last few weeks angry / upset, saying one guy keeps saying 'when's the baby due' 'how many months gone are you' things like that. Absolutely pathetic for grown men. DP has taken this to heart and now is becoming obsessive with losing weight / wanting to go for a run. He has never once mentioned being unhappy with his weight before this man child keeps hurling abuse at him. Neither had he mentioned going for a run! We drove back 400 miles today from a long weekend break, within the hour he is out the door going for a run (in the pitch black) because he's worrying about this guys remarks. I don't really know what my AIBU is, but I fancied a rant about it because it's doing my head in that is bothering him so much when we was happy with his weight previously.

Zanatdy · 08/03/2023 06:41

He just needs to reduce his calories a bit and he will lose. Running won’t do him any harm but his ‘friends’ are out of order

Woolandwonder · 08/03/2023 06:43

Poor DH. His friend sounds like a massive dick, my DPs dad made a horrible comment about his weight and it really upset him too, he has a real tendency towards depression and ruminating on not being good enough, so really bloody unkind and unhelpful. All you can do is try and reassure him and maybe encourage him to tell his friend to F off. I'd be really upset if a friend made a comment about my weight so really understand.

notthisagainforest · 08/03/2023 07:06

Hasn't the bloke done him a favour ?

BlueHeelers · 08/03/2023 07:18

Your DH should remember that losing weight is mostly about diet. It’s good he’s motivated to exercise but he’s facing the standard challenge of being in one’s 30s. Your metabolism starts to slow down. Maybe he needs to think more about what he’s eating.

Littlefaeries · 08/03/2023 07:29

Woolandwonder · 08/03/2023 06:43

Poor DH. His friend sounds like a massive dick, my DPs dad made a horrible comment about his weight and it really upset him too, he has a real tendency towards depression and ruminating on not being good enough, so really bloody unkind and unhelpful. All you can do is try and reassure him and maybe encourage him to tell his friend to F off. I'd be really upset if a friend made a comment about my weight so really understand.

Dh's dad made a comment to bil about my dh's weight.
Bil thought it was funny and told my dh.
It wasn't funny. It was cruel.
Dh was mentally quite poorly at the time and bil knew this. Dh was previously into fitness.
Dh knew he was 2 stone overweight and hated it.
8 years later my dh is slim again , healthy and goes running regularly.
His db is now extremely fat.
The difference is we never mention bil's weight.

Equalityumber · 08/03/2023 07:32

This is clearly bullying.

Next time DP goes down to football could you go with him and speak to this bloke?

Sugargliderwombat · 08/03/2023 07:33

Cassiehopes · 07/03/2023 23:37

Does he eat much bread, pasta and beer? Those foods always add weight to the tummy - fast and noticeably - but when they’re cut out, the weight seems to fall off quickly! That might be a quick way to help so he stops banging on about it. Bless him! Poor guy. Men are horrible to each other sometimes, I can’t imagine a woman ever saying something like that!

Imagine if a guy was calling a woman fat and a man responded with tips on weight loss.

DustyLee123 · 08/03/2023 07:33

Does he drink much alcohol ? That’s calories that people don’t often think of.

alltoowe · 08/03/2023 07:35

Equalityumber · 08/03/2023 07:32

This is clearly bullying.

Next time DP goes down to football could you go with him and speak to this bloke?

She's not his fucking mum! Christ sake!

WineCap · 08/03/2023 07:36

It's obviously not nice that DP has been made self-conscious by a team mate. However, I think a lot of weight loss journeys start with some sort of negative experience as it gives them a wake up call and makes them realise how much weight they've actually gained.

Eyerollcentral · 08/03/2023 07:40

Equalityumber · 08/03/2023 07:32

This is clearly bullying.

Next time DP goes down to football could you go with him and speak to this bloke?

That’s really gonna stop the bullying 🫠 these are adult male friends in their 30s fgs not 7 year olds. Am sure the husband is well able to tell him to shut his gob.

Eyerollcentral · 08/03/2023 07:42

WineCap · 08/03/2023 07:36

It's obviously not nice that DP has been made self-conscious by a team mate. However, I think a lot of weight loss journeys start with some sort of negative experience as it gives them a wake up call and makes them realise how much weight they've actually gained.

Yes unfortunately this is true. It’s not just a matter of appearance much more importantly it’s health. I can’t understand why it seems the OP is so anti her husband losing weight.

SofiaSoFar · 08/03/2023 07:43

Equalityumber · 08/03/2023 07:32

This is clearly bullying.

Next time DP goes down to football could you go with him and speak to this bloke?

Too right.

And if this man doesn't take heed and stop being mean, have a word with his mum wife about his behaviour.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 08/03/2023 07:48

Equalityumber · 08/03/2023 07:32

This is clearly bullying.

Next time DP goes down to football could you go with him and speak to this bloke?

You've got to be joking. That'll give ammunition for comments. He's a grown man, OP doesn't need to fight his battles.

Elleviss · 08/03/2023 07:59

Hmmm...could he be cheating? It's not unusual for men/women to take on more exercise when another party is involved. Could he be pretending the ribbing from the other lads is affecting him when really he is off out in the dark jogging on to someone else?

SofiaSoFar · 08/03/2023 08:03

Elleviss · 08/03/2023 07:59

Hmmm...could he be cheating? It's not unusual for men/women to take on more exercise when another party is involved. Could he be pretending the ribbing from the other lads is affecting him when really he is off out in the dark jogging on to someone else?

😂

RosaBonheur · 08/03/2023 08:04

The comments are unkind and immature but if my husband was overweight I would be pleased if he started going for runs and trying to lose the excess weight.

Sunnydays0101 · 08/03/2023 08:06

Surely it doesn’t matter whether or not you are happy with your DH’s weight - he’s not happy and good on him for taking control of the issue. Better to drop the half stone now than to gain another half!

Going for a run in the evenings is perfectly normal - I’m sure you are free to do the same.

Eyerollcentral · 08/03/2023 08:09

Elleviss · 08/03/2023 07:59

Hmmm...could he be cheating? It's not unusual for men/women to take on more exercise when another party is involved. Could he be pretending the ribbing from the other lads is affecting him when really he is off out in the dark jogging on to someone else?

So you think that he has come home in a faux rage making up stories complete w quotes that he is being bullied for his weight when really he has another woman on the go…and you think that is genuinely more likely than he wants to drop half a stone as he has gotten a bit pudgy and his mates are making fun of him. I can’t believe the responses on here, eating disorders, get his wife to go down and beat the bullies and now having an affair!

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 08/03/2023 08:10

Ffs people need to reread the op, she's worried about his mental health because he's becoming obsessive not his weight

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Thepowerofawoman · 08/03/2023 08:11

Thanks all - the thing is, there isn't a roll of fat, he just like has a bloated belly - hence the pregnant comment.
He is by no means fat at all.

No mental health issues either - he just seems to have taken this one to heart and like PP said, I think it's more of a vanity thing.

Of course I'm not against him losing weight, i run myself, my point was that after driving 400 miles all day to then go out for a run is a bit much when previously he had not been at all worried about his weight - must of been playing on his mind.

I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I just feel for him that some man who at a 'friendly' kick about has pushed this with him silly remarks.

They are wankers, but no, I certainly won't be going and having a word, I will leave the grown men to it 😂

Anyway I'm sure the belly will be gone in no time - like I said I was just having a rant.

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Thepowerofawoman · 08/03/2023 08:12

Elleviss · 08/03/2023 07:59

Hmmm...could he be cheating? It's not unusual for men/women to take on more exercise when another party is involved. Could he be pretending the ribbing from the other lads is affecting him when really he is off out in the dark jogging on to someone else?

Well I bloody hope not... 😬

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Eyerollcentral · 08/03/2023 08:13

Tbf the only example the OP has given is that he went out for a run after a long drive. That’s not obsessive. The OP seems unhappy he wants to lose weight at all because she prefers him to have the weight on. She says he has put on weight. It’s normal to want to lose that, particularly if it’s noticeable enough your own friends are saying when are you due.

Eyerollcentral · 08/03/2023 08:16

Thepowerofawoman · 08/03/2023 08:11

Thanks all - the thing is, there isn't a roll of fat, he just like has a bloated belly - hence the pregnant comment.
He is by no means fat at all.

No mental health issues either - he just seems to have taken this one to heart and like PP said, I think it's more of a vanity thing.

Of course I'm not against him losing weight, i run myself, my point was that after driving 400 miles all day to then go out for a run is a bit much when previously he had not been at all worried about his weight - must of been playing on his mind.

I'm not saying it's a bad thing, I just feel for him that some man who at a 'friendly' kick about has pushed this with him silly remarks.

They are wankers, but no, I certainly won't be going and having a word, I will leave the grown men to it 😂

Anyway I'm sure the belly will be gone in no time - like I said I was just having a rant.

It’s really unhealthy for an otherwise reasonably slim man to have a bloated belly like that especially in his 30s. Sounds like he just got a kick up the ass he needed and now he has noticed it himself he wants rid asap. Anyone who is training or trying to stick to a routine with a family especially has to fit in a run where they can, I don’t see anything out of the ordinary about going for a run after a long drive

emptythelitterbox · 08/03/2023 08:21

When was the last time he weighed himself?

He may weigh more than the 13 stones.

He'd have better and faster results cleaning up his diet than trying to exercise it off.

Does he have a lot of empty calories? Alcohol, sweets, fizzy drinks?