To think he shouldn't be like this?

[SunsetsInVenice]

Based on a simple misunderstanding?
DH said this Saturday gone that he may be home for a conference call which was happening at lunchtime today. He doesn't get set lunch hours so left it that he would text me to confirm. We only have the one housekey as I lost the other so he needed me to be at home to let him in.
I didn't hear anything all morning so went to gym. When I finished my class, there were numerous texts on my phone saying that he was outside the front door and assumed I would be at home after what he had said. I told him I had heard nothing from him but he said 'You know I couldn't have let you know the day before as I don't know my exact lunch hours day to day so could only have let you know this morning.'
Got home and he's in a foul mood. Aibu to say he should have been clearer ?

You should have checked before you went out and left him locked out, considering it was also you that caused this problem by losing the key and not replacing it.

Get a key box and keep a spare key in it.

Do you like each other at all? Because it doesn't sound like it.

Him 'should be around 12 if that's ok?'

You 'just off to the gym. Do you need me to leave the key under the flower pot.'

Would be the words of people who actually liked each other.

Why didn't you just believe him when he said he was coming home. Why would you presume he had changed his plans?

Why didn't you text him when you were thinking of going to the gym "hey, you still coming home, wanting to go to the gym so let me know"

Lunch is generally between 11.30 and 2.00 for most people. Would it have been so hard to go to the gym outside of those hours or text him or just bloody communicate.

Why didn't you check your phone at the gym just in case?

And why the hell do you only have one key to your house. Disaster waiting to happen.

Honestly if dh had done this to me I'd be really really irritated.

@SunsetsInVenice do you have to hang round at home every day in case he needs letting in ?? Get a bloody key cut.

What sort of dumb relationship is this that when one of you relies on the other to get into the house, you don't bloody communicate with each other?!

I'm infuriated just reading this!

I also don't understand why you haven't had a key cut, and also why his roving lunch hour makes a difference, when he was supposedly coming home for a conference call which would have been scheduled well in advance?

You were inconsiderate and selfish.

Firstly, even if his lunch hours aren’t set, there’s going to be a max variation of 3 or so hours in which he’ll come home (you can safely assume it’ll be between 11.30am-3pm). But even if you needed an exact time, why would you not text him to double-check whether he still intended to come home for lunch, instead of just assume the plans had changed because he hadn’t been in touch?

Also, you had literally all day to go to the gym. It sounds like you deliberately decided to leave in the middle of the day, to prove a point to him about his failure to follow up on an exact time with you. What was stopping you from going in the afternoon or evening or early morning - literally any other time apart from lunch, which you knew he’d likely need you to be in for?

Moreover, this whole incident arose because you lost your key and have failed to cut a replacement in all the time it’s been lost.

YABU.

You lost the key , you didn’t prioritise getting a new one and yet you’re whingeing? Really !