To still be cutting up my 4 year old's grapes?

[surreygirl1987]

Was at a party this afternoon. The host had an amazing fruit platter prepared for the kids in the village hall. Grapes weren't cut up. Most parents plonked grapes on their kids' places without cutting them, or let the kids help themselves. These are 3-4 years olds. I plucked a bunch off and tore them into smaller pieces for my 4 year old (as I know grapes are a choking hazard). Am I the one being unreasonable here or are the other parents? I do think I was the only one that was bothered but I thought grapes can still be risky at 4...? What do other parents do??

My dd is 11 and I still do this. Probably always will !

I was still cutting my daughters grapes in year 6 , she may have choked in a busy noisy dining room and it could have been too late before she was noticed .
It gave me peace of mind whilst she was out of my site and its nobody else's business.

Do you not need to wash them anyway?

Definitely still cut up here @surreygirl1987 as they are very much still a choking hazard at age 4. Well done you! I think people forget once dc are past the infant stage, though I once saw someone give non-cut grapes to a newly turned 1 year old!!

love this. genuinely. safest thing

Mine are over 4 and I still cut up grapes, cherry tomatoes, blueberries things like that - and i wont stop until they are teens. My kids my rules

They also know they are categorically not allowed whole grapes, if someone offers them grapes they say no.

extreme yes but the risk is too much

I used to chop up Dd‘S grapes until we went to my in laws house on holiday when she was 3 , he has a small fridge and she helped herself to grapes, ate half the punnet b3fore we realised, I watched her after that and noticed every grape she bit in half before she swallowed so stopped cutting them, she’s 10 and still bites them in half before swallowing.

Mine are 10 and 8 and I still cut their grapes, I’m paranoid about choking though as my son choked when he was just one so I’d rather be safe than sorry! 😩

My boy is 11 and I cut up grapes in his lunch box! Why take the risk? 🤷

I cut my 9 year olds grapes in half!

didn’t read thread so apologies.
You're supposed to half grapes ( length ways ) until child is at least 5 years old. I cut mine until they were 7.
There is a serious choking risk with whole grapes, so you’re certainly are not being unreasonable.

I wasn't allowed lollipops but was allowed boiled sweets - my mum stopped that, I choked on one as a child
Was very sensible even when little but I had a boiled sweet while on a long car journey, dad had to do an emergency stop and the force meant the sweet got lodged in my throat
I've never eaten them since as it terrified me

I still cut up my 4.5 year old granddaughters grapes.

This thread is a fascinating study in paranoia. Grapes OK, but some of the food in this thread and the age of the "child" that the food is being chopped up for is ridiculous.

OP, just do what you think is safest. As an aside I always insist dcs aren't to be in the front passenger seat of a car, even others cars and some parents roll their eyes but I don't care. Its tough if they don't like it. Its that or you don't give my dc a lift.

My 13 year old cuts his own grapes. It's just normal for him now after seeing me do it for him for years.

Dts are 11, i still cut them. I would never out uncut grapes out at a party.

I cut my daughters and she's 15

I also make sure they always bite into mini eggs, maltesters etc

They think i'm mad but i'd rather that than the alternative

why are people cutting up their tween and teenagers grapes or not allowing them popcorn, am i the only one thinking that's mad let alone not allowing them hard sweets, like at some point you know you have to stop right like do you expect to still be cutting them up at 19 @Fifiellz are you actually for real 15?!

Yeah I'm for real

I'm also a childminder and look after very little toddlers so it's just an ingrained habit.

My teen just laughs and i'm sure she's perfectly capable of eating a grape 🤷‍♀️

I still do it though (do it for my husband too if that also bothers you😂)

I wonder how many people on here in the future will be posting about controlling parents?

I still cut up my 9 year olds grapes. Better to be safe then sorry

Why would they

Unfortunately if you know and work with children you would understand that no matter what you teach them once you turn your back you find them playing the toss it in the air and catch it game or grab it and run. Let alone the number who don't even eat with their children. Choking is silent most think they will hear something. That's gagging when they don't need you.

Adults choke on grapes amongst many other foods....and they never had food cut this way as children.