AIBU to be annoyed at this?

[Silvannah]

DD is doing a kind of family tree thing at School & she has to take phots of Mummy, Daddy, Granny etc to School.

She has asked me for a photo of me and DH when we were babies. DH asked his mum for a photo & she (his mum) digs out one photo album after another. so far so good.

I ask my parents for a baby photo of me and they do not have ONE photo. They have loads of my sister. Their excuse is, because I was child number 3, they were too busy to take photos , and then had the nerve to say that "they kinda lost interest" by the time I came along. I am fuming. My father then says "Oh, there maybe one or two pics of you on slide" WTF, what good is that? DD is upset she only has pics of her daddy as a baby and not mummy .

Am I overeacting? I feel so angry?

I'm child number 5, and the first photograph of me was aged 3 taken by a neighbour

nowt much I can do about that, all I did was make sure my DS1 and DS2 have as much as each other - photos etc

my brother (first born) EVERYTHING was taken of him, less so of brother 2, nothing of sister number 3 and nothing of sister number 4 - in fact from we were children they were all school photographs ( except off neighbour)

you also have to factor in how expensive this stuff was then, it was a hell of a lot more expensive to have photographs taken and developed in the the 70's than later on

by the time you got to later children there was probably much more need to spend money on practical things than photographs

that said I can fully understand how you feel, i was convinced i was adopted just by there being no photographs of me until I was 3

Yep I've taken many slides into photo developing shops and got prints of them too. My parents only ever took slides

I forget these days with DS being nearly 5 to take photos of him as much as I used to, I hope he won't be upset with me as a result later on in life as it really is no indication of how much I love him.

I think this is normal. My parent have way more photos of my brother than of me as a baby.

DD's baby books got filled in (until she was about 9 mths anyway) DS did not even get a baby book.

Not because I love him any less, but I had much much more time as a SAHM with PFB. When DS came along, DD was only 2yo. I did not have the time and the energy to do a baby book.

We do have photos though.

There are no photos of me as a baby. I am no.5. The earliest photo is of me looking about 2 with my dad. No point getting upset over it, our parents can't go back and retake them.

Oh and I'm one of 6 kids, ther are photos of us all, but they are sparce in places and years at a time are without any photos. There are no photos of the siter after me as my parents had no camera, the first photo of her is at 2 yrs old.

Ask my mum when we started walking/talking/potty training/reading and she genuinely cann't remember between all of us who did what when. It used to bother us kids a bit but now it really doesn't matter, as they are great parents and gave us a lot of good memories.

I suppose you are right but my parents have always favoured big sis and then brother - I'm thinking big sis (firstborn so a bit spoilt) brother (2nd born but first boy, parents always wanted a boy), and me (I was an accident and they told me so), guess it just saddens me a bit.

No photos of me either - number two and a girl much to my mum's dismay (as she told me all the time when I was growing up!). Only pictures of me are with my brothers. I took the earliest one of these i could find and had it blown up at Jessops so it's a picture of just me. Made me feel a bit better.

My parents (mum anyway) always told me they only wanted boys - sad really isn't it?

That is sad Silvannah . Not a nice thing for anyone to hear.

no wonder you are upset and annoyed at having no baby photos!

I lost all my baby photos of DS (child number 2) because I put them on the pc which then broek so needed restoring to factory settings
I have only two of him that were done professionally and none that are 'snaps'.
DD however I have HUNDREDS.

i can't believe this, but i now look at baby pics of my own DC's and sometimes can't quite identify which one is which.

I remember being horrified when my own mother would hesitate when looking at old pics of my sister and me, saying she wasn't sure which one it was!

YABU. Same thing with my SIL who is child number 3. We dont have nearly as much footage of DD2 but it doesnt mean we love her any less. If you were a happy, loved, secure child surely this means more than some photos would. I can see why you would feel a bit miffed but not to this extent.