To ask whether you think compatibility or chemistry is more important?

[RelationshipsAreHard]

I didn't want to post this on relationships as I didn't want a biased view.

What, in your opinion, is more important, or if there's a ratio - what would it be? Is it honestly possible to have both on some level past a certain point?

Chemistry for sure has the attraction, desire and romance but there might not be the security, longevity, common ground and comfort.

Compatibility keeps you grounded and feeling safe, lots in common and a strong companionship, but there's a risk of things falling into a friend zone, no passion, boredom, eyes wandering elsewhere..

Would you give up on a relationship if you realised you only had one of the two?

@WisherWood That's lovely you have found that ❤️ And I agree, the intense chemistry when you first meet someone is hormones and I now see it as a sexual response.
I had no attraction in my long relationship (lots on his side) and that made it less stressful so we had a very stable time and I felt very loved and secure, Same sense of humour etc.
Then I met someone who I felt intense chemistry with, very attracted to, and connected with on a soul level, get on really well with, good man etc. Life circumstances meant it couldn't be but we're still best friends now and we get on the same way. I know it exists and that's what I want! I can't settle for just stability again, I'd rather be alone.