I'm trying to divorce a narcissistic H, but it's so so hard and unless you've been through this, no one genuinely understands. It literally makes you crazy and it's so lonely.
He's not physically abusive, but mentally and emotionally. He is two people. The kind, considerate one to the wider world, and a real sicko to me and the kids. No one believes me, or would believe me if i shared/when i share.
I've been waiting for him to move out since Dec. He wont. It's apparently my fault that he cant. I pay all household/kids expenses and literally cant buy myself food. He buys food for the kids, but blames me that its because of this that he doesn't move.
One week ago i asked him if he was attending a dcs sports day. It takes place where he works, and school needs parents for transfers. He could literally accompany the kids there at 9am (when he starts work anyways)..do work..and take them back at 12 on his lunch break. Ive been asking for a week if he can do that. The school is asking, they are 1 parent short. If they dont get enough, the whole day will be cancelled. Ive asked him every day for a week. He ignores me/the request. He enjoys the withhold. Who does this?! And if he eventually does it, i know he will put on his 'amazing dad' act and show off his amazingness to everyone.
Im supposed to parent with this person? How?! He is really such an amazing manipulator that truly no one believes me. He does it so subtly that it is me who looks awful for nagging, pressuring him for answers/commitments. At the last minute he always turns around and says calm down, no one died, you have anger management problems etc etc..