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Balls in garden

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SparklingPinot · 25/02/2023 22:00

Another balls in garden thread It’s a long-ish one, apologies.

DH & I have lived in our house, happily, for 10 x years. For the past 5 of those years we have had to deal with almost constant balls being kicked over into our garden from the house behind, and as their DC get older these are being kicked into our garden with increasing force (on an average summers day a min 10 x balls will come over which I’ll go out and throw back over…another 10 or so will come over, so on and so forth).

If we do not throw them over they will come into our garden and take them, which we have caught them doing and asked them not to, but suspect they still do on occasion.

It has got a bit ridiculous at times and we have suggested they consider a net to stop the issue but they have said they got a quote and it’s far too expensive.

DH has always been extremely chilled, says it’s kids playing & takes a lot to bother him. Until now…

Fast forward to now & we have a toddler, & we have just completed an extension, & are finalising our garden. Funnily enough, whilst the works were being done, no balls have been coming into our garden, but as the builders and heavy machinery in our back garden has left, so begins the balls once again.
We will shortly have a useable garden (which we haven’t had for some time due to works) and as the weather gets nicer I am genuinely concerned for the safety of my DC in the garden with the strength at which the balls are being kicked in once again (it’s not a huge garden - think standard semi, and we’ve extended so the gardens even smaller).

We’ve asked recently, in the context of what we were doing, for them to contribute towards the fence between our properties (not in a great state because of the balls) which they said no to.

I am now wondering where to go from here as new fence is shortly going in at our expense, but as the weather gets better the balls are only going to get worse. I’m mindful I don’t want to start any neighbour disputes but I’m wondering if anyone knows what our legal rights are (I know we always have to return the ball 🙄) & can advise really where to go from here…

I should add that on weekends balls are being kicked over (and against the fence) often until 21h/22h , meaning that I’m forced to have my toddler childs bedroom in our front, tiny, box room, rather than the much larger back bedroom (this wasn’t an issue as a baby but as DC has started to grow & get more stuff I could do with putting them in the larger bedroom but
am 100% certain that the shrieks and repeated bangs of balls being kicked against walls & fences would keep them awake).

AIBU to think that neighbour should do something to prevent the onslaught of balls & allow us to enjoy our garden with our new(ish) DC in relative peace and quiet?!

OP posts:
PixieLaLa · 28/02/2023 07:50

Beneficialchampion2 · 27/02/2023 23:31

I could understand this if your garden backed onto the Manchester United Training ground where they practice taking penalties, but kids kicking a ball around injuring or damaging property? Give me a break.

OP said in their first post that the fence has been damaged because of constant balls being kicked at it and the neighbours won’t contribute towards it. And yes a ball hitting a toddler could absolutely cause injury. Are you being deliberately thick?

Grumpybutfunny · 28/02/2023 07:53

@PixieLaLa are you intending to wrap the toddler in bubble wrap forever? A bruise off a ball isn't an injury it's a sign of childhood

PixieLaLa · 28/02/2023 08:01

Grumpybutfunny · 28/02/2023 07:53

@PixieLaLa are you intending to wrap the toddler in bubble wrap forever? A bruise off a ball isn't an injury it's a sign of childhood

There is a massive difference between ‘wrapping them in bubble wrap forever’ and them being able to play in their own garden safely without the worry of a ball being kicked by an older child with force landing on them. The ignorance of some people on this thread……🙄

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