To go to wedding fayre with future son in law?

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I am supposed to be looking after three grandchildren tomorrow while daughter and her chap go to a wedding fayre.

But it's been a rashy week - daughter and one of her children have an all over rash. Both have high temperature. The gp said it is viral - seen lots in the community lately.

Daughter was worse last night - hallucinating. So she wants me to go with son in law to wedding fayre and pick up leaflets/brochures. She thinks that I'll know what she wants.

I want to tell son in law to 'just shop around' for what they want - is it worth going to these promotional things?

I feel a bit uncomfortable - can't exactly explain why. But there will be loved up couples there. And then me schlepping around with my future son in law. It doesn't feel right. I feel that it would be more embarrassing for him? I don't want to put him that position.

Would I be unreasonable to say no?

I’ve done a few wedding Fayre with my personalised shoe business and you get all sorts of people there - sometimes bride and her sister/friend/mum, sometimes a whole crowd together, just bride alone, just mum looking on behalf of daughter, I had two guys come up to me last week and I started chatting to them thinking they were getting married, turns out only one of them was, the other was his friend and bride followed shortly afterwards!

I think it will be a nice way to spend some time together and there will be leaflets/business cards/samples to take home for her to see/try too. She can arrange to visit the venue another time, and then chat to the suppliers she likes the look of by email etc

@WhereIsMumHiding3 it's not really 'making a drama' to wonder why a dad isn't looking after his kids when his partner is ill. If the OP's daughter doesn't think he's be able to choose anything useful, I'm just wondering why she and her daughter are enabling him to have a day out rather than looking after his kids.

If the OP's daughter is too ill for a day out, she's too ill to look after her kids.

And I'm a single parent. I've looked after my kids plenty of times when it would have been better for someone else to take over. But that's out of need. The son in law doesn't need to go and get brochures and leaflets.

This is AIBU. I'm saying yes, the OP is being unreasonable for enabling this shit behaviour.

Round here there are tonnes of wedding fayres all with the Same suppliers attending I should imagine

They can both go to another one just because that one is at the venue she doesn't have to go

The focus should be on her getting better not deciding if you need 2 doves releasing or a harp 🤪

Why can’t his mum come too? All 3 of you can go!

I found wedding fairs really helpful to see local suppliers, cake tastings, some suppliers give discounts to those at the fair and things like that. If she's asked you to go and to bring her stbdh then Id take that to mean its really important to her and she trusts you to know what she likes and focus on those things.

So we went.

Neither of us enjoyed it.

For a start - couldn't get parked. It was extremely busy. We quickly worked our way round - got a goody bag and added business cards, brochures and magazines.

Was approached by a lady, she said I was gorgeous and asked if I wanted a white sheet photo shoot - which we thought was hilarious. (I couldn't be further from gorgeous.). I've never heard of white sheet photo shoots - what next? It's all very different to when I got married. But I got some great information on mother of the bride outfits - which I hadn't seen when 'googling' - so that was a bonus.

We got what we went for - there and back in less than an hour.

As a result, appointments have been made this morning for fittings and lots of enquiries have been made - so the ball is definitely rolling. They are organising it all within a year - they didn't realise people would be there booking for 2025 and 2026.

I was engaged (total surprise) and married within five months. I was 20 years old.

OMG - fire eaters, zorbing, bowling alleys, axe throwing, photo booths, face painting, glitter booths, bouncy castles, space hoppers - that's what I can remember. Very different - guests seem in need of entertainment nowadays.

Hope they choose well.

Hope husband is amenable.

I had to Google white sheet photo shoot, you had a lucky escape what a load of nonsense 😂

Least you went .and they can get on with organising.

Ooh, what did you find out about mother of the bride outfits? I'm getting to that point with DD's wedding when I'm going to have to force myself to think about it.

Yes me too what are the secrets ?