MIL reaction seems cold

[Asummersday]

Not sure whether i’m just being overly sensitive and reading too much into things or if MIL is being insensitive.

I am early 30s for reference. Husband text MIL in our group chat to tell her the sad news that my sister had died.

she replies “sending hugs & our love”

then a couple of hours later a funny pic of her dog.

then nothing about it, for weeks. If it was me, I would at least send a card or check in with the person showing some empathy and care.

Am I overthinking this??

I am very sorry for your loss. This must be a very difficult time.

I can see why you found the picture of the dog insensitive, and to an extent it was. However, I do wonder whether it was really appropriate that your DH announced the death of your sister on the group chat in this way?

I tend to think that this sort of thing is better done via personal messages than group chats. Group chats are for groups to chat about anything they like including pictures of dogs . Personal messages are better for this sort of bereavement in my opinion, leaving the group chat free for general chatting.

I would have wanted to send you flowers, maybe a card and some personal phone calls and messages if I were your MIL, but would have appreciated also being able to still use the family group chat for general chitchat.

I read the OP too fast initially and thought MIL had revived the group chat a couple of weeks later. A couple of hours! What an irredeemable cunt.

Very true. I'm still shocked that I received the news of my sister's death via an eight word text from my (adult) niece.

Did you expect more? Are you close? Have u seen her rally around other people with loss?

Mine was Vile at both times I had a loss

My MIL and SIL are yet to acknowledge my mums death 10 months ago.
insensitive twats. And I’m done with them.
love to you, OP xx

Sorry for the loss of your sister.
It seems a bizarre thing to inform her by way of a group whatsapp chat TBH.
Did she know your sister?
Personally I'd have called or sent a card - but have given up on trying to predict others' behaviour.

It's a very odd thing to put in a group chat.....there's no etiquette for such things and perhaps she just felt very awkward? Context of the greater relationship is everything on this one but also your husband is an idiot! Who informs close family of a death on a group chat!

Sorry for the loss of your sister. When I read posts like yours I am glad I come from a culture that has a very different response to death and bereavement.
That your MIL hasn't reached out to you in your grief to offer you support is unbelievable to me. What kind of a relationship do you normally have? Even if the excuse is she doesn't know what to say she could send a card or some flowers to say she is thinking of you. Anything to show she cared.
Your husband's way of informing her doesn't look good either.