AIBU to expect nursery to replace coat?

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DS is 3 and goes to a nursery attached to a private school so has a uniform including a coat. He came home in a coat that had another student’s name in it so we returned it and said it wasn’t his. We assume that his went home either with this child or that multiple coats have been switched up. His coat hasn’t been returned so we’re now expected to buy a new coat from the school for £45. His coat was named in multiple places. AIBU to think that, seeing as they lost it, we shouldn’t have to pay to replace it?

Could another parent have picked it up by mistake?

I’d expect them to message all parents to check who has your son’s but no I wouldn’t expect them to replace it.

Nursery is a black hole for clothes going missing so yabu. Use second/third/fourth hand for nursery and label everything

I wouldn’t expect them to pay for it- I’d expect them to put out a message to all
parents to see who has it- and be allowed to wear any old coat in the interim.

Yes that is unreasonable. Do you expect the staff to check k that each child has not picked up the wrong coat? If so prepare for a long line at home time where every child has to show the staff member their belongings before they are allowed to leave. Would you be OK with this? You pick up your child and staff member says oh take off your coat and show me the name label please. I doubt it.

Agree with this. So much stuff disappears at nursery they’d be crazy so start replacing things.

I wouldn't expect them to replace it, but I wouldn't replace it with another school coat either. If they can't find it then he can wear a cheaper coat/any coat you have at home.

Ah you've a difficult school journey ahead if you think schools and nurseries replace lost items. We've all had to replace countless lost jumpers and Pe kits, it's your responsibility.

Do you have a parents WhatsApp group you could ask on? It's likely an innocent mistake and the parent who has your DC's coat just hasn't noticed. If not, I'd expect the nursery to put a message out to all the other parents asking that they check their DC's coats. Or, nursery check them themselves as the children arrive/leave. That's what happens at the pre-school DS attends, which is also attached to the school and has a uniform.

That's easy to say but when it's a uniform coat and needed in a specific size then second/third/fourth hand isn't necessarily an option.

It's annoying but I doubt the nursery will replace the coat. But they shpuld message all the patents to see i anybody has got the coat.

Have you been through the lost property box?

The person you've asked to check if it's been returned might not know if it has or not if someone else has been handed it and put it straight in the box.

When DD was at nursery the box was more of a cupboard, there were dozens of coats/jumpers/cardigans in there. A couple of times a year it would be piled high in reception for everyone to sift through and see if they could find anything with their kids names on.

I can see why you m think that’s reasonable if it’s your first time having something lost. But they won’t, don’t and can’t replace things in this way.

We are sadly veterans of the Lost Property box. Particular highlights include, child coming out in one shoe, second shoe never found. Child coming out in one welly, second welly never found. Child being supplied with much needed and prescribed medicine, medicine never coming back meaning missed doses and requiring urgent/OOH trip to doctors and taxi to midnight pharmacy to replace. Child being sent in wearing prescription glasses, come out not wearing glasses (and not being able to see for nearly two weeks). And this one was especially good - child going in with a cast on their arm, and coming out, without a cast on their arm.

Of course the nursery won't pay for a new one. No doubt your son's one will turn up in a week or so - they usually do if they're named.

Good luck with the entitled attitude that the nursery owe you one though. You have a long school career ahead for your son and I can tell you now, he will be losing loads of shit and you will be replacing it all the time.

Ask in the parents whatsapp group, ask the teachers and school office to keep an eye out. It’ll likely show up. But otherwise it’s your responsibility. We once lost 3 pairs of ballet shoes in a term. Last week we lost a mouth guard, pair of tights and knickers (changing for swimming)🫣

Have you checked with the parent whose child's coat you had?

School is different to nursery to be fair, at nursery the staff are normally far more involved in helping children get their stuff together to go etc.

Oh, and once, my DD went into reception wearing a polo shirt, dress and tights, and came out wearing a polo shirt and tights, having lost the dress….

I uniform that includes a coat is ridiculous for a 3 year old.

Is this your first child OP? Welcome to the black hole that is nursery / school!

For the record YABU

That made me laugh out loud. Kids are a trip.

Is he brought home or is he brought out to you?

A nursery expecting kids to all have identical school coats sounds excessive and a recipe for lost items!

I wouldn't expect school to pay for it but I wouldn't replace a £45 item. (That said, the most expensive thing at my kids school is an 8 quid jumper so never a huge impact)

LOL. 'That parent' alert...

I can't believe that this would even enter your head as a possibility.

Yabvu