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Aibu to have refused to leave my kids with my sisters dog

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AnonymouslyOnHere · 24/02/2023 18:04

My sister has a large dog (approx 1 year old). She doesn’t have kids, the dog is her ‘baby’. The dog is not used to children and is very ‘nervy’. My kids love dogs but aren’t around them much.
Me and DH were recently visiting my parents and for the first time were going to leave the kids with them for 2 nights (kids are 7 and 4). My sister was also there with the dog. On the night before we were due to go away and leave the kids the dog was constantly nipping at my youngest every time she moved. Not biting, just almost snatching its mouth towards her (I don’t really know how to describe!). This was obv unsettling for my DD and I was getting stressed.
In the morning, I asked for my sister to take the dog to her bf to look after as I couldn’t trust it around the kids. Or we would take the kids away with us. The dog was sent to the bf but this has caused some upset in the family.
So AIBU to have sent the dog away?

OP posts:
Hendric · 24/02/2023 20:36

Spidey66 · 24/02/2023 18:20

I had this image of your sister's dog babysitting your kids.

Me too! Like Peter Pan.

DaftQuestionForToday · 27/10/2023 10:16

Why has it caused an issue?

Was you sister happy with it air snapping (not mouthing) at your youngest?

Was there a problem with the b/f having it for a couple of days?

Was your sister planning on staying at your parents or going home in the morning??

CompanyPlease · 27/10/2023 10:49

ProbablyDogNappersHunX · 24/02/2023 20:26

This is perfect 😍

On more than one occasion I've had to tell children to stop chasing my dog - who was definitely saying no by walking away! Parents looked confused...

We have a large dog and it's amazing how many people have no respect for its body language, he's fluffy etc but can be a bit nervous as people approach him quite full on. He's never snapped or anything but will hide behind me and they still try to stroke him.

Myotherusernamesafunnyone · 27/10/2023 10:50

DaftQuestionForToday · 27/10/2023 10:16

Why has it caused an issue?

Was you sister happy with it air snapping (not mouthing) at your youngest?

Was there a problem with the b/f having it for a couple of days?

Was your sister planning on staying at your parents or going home in the morning??

This thread is from February

Createausername1970 · 27/10/2023 10:57

If I had been the dog's owner I would have removed the dog. I have a very placid dog, happy to go visiting and meeting new people, but then gets bored, curls up and sleeps and farts till it's time to go. The ONLY time I have seen her show any signs of not being happy was around a small child. I just said the truth, neither the dog nor the child is looking very comfortable, so I am taking dog away, just to be on the safe side.

If the dog owner wasn't being proactive, then you were right to say something.

Createausername1970 · 27/10/2023 10:59

Myotherusernamesafunnyone · 27/10/2023 10:50

This thread is from February

Doh! Is it me or are there a lot of older threads suddenly appearing recently?

Notonthestairs · 27/10/2023 11:00

Thread is 8 months old. I'd hope the Op has resolved this issue as best she can by now.

Nanny0gg · 27/10/2023 11:08

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/02/2023 20:17

One of the effective rules I used with DD when she was small and she wanted to pet a dog was, 'ask the owner then ask the dog'.

She ask the owner, 'can I pet your dog?' I would ask if it was friendly. Then she would 'ask the dog'. Was it yawning, showing whites of eyes, ears back etc. put hand out palm down, does the dog approach and lick and so on.

The number of times an owner said 'yes' and a dog said 'no' was scary. I heard 'he's fine' when the dog was moving away, ears back, yawning etc. people need to understand their dogs and teach them and children that both should be listened to.

I'd recognise the other signs but not the yawning.

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