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AIBU?

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To not actually care if the Sex topic is in active?

95 replies

PaperDoves · 24/02/2023 12:06

I don't care. Do you?

YABU: Get Sex out of active!
YANBU: I really don't care.

OP posts:
Hawkins003 · 25/02/2023 23:46

ErrolTheDragon · 24/02/2023 15:26

YABU, and if you don't care then why bother starting a thread about it?

I guess since the protesters have been doing anti threads about it, this is the Pro threads in favor

Sparklingbrook · 25/02/2023 23:48

Justine's post: Hi again... Wow so this took off overnight! It's pretty clear from the strength of feeling and reaction to my post that this isn't so much about the actual affects of moving the Sex topic into Active, or the fact that individually you can avoid seeing it by hiding it, it's as much about tone and feel of the site. As such it seems to me there's no point us waiting for the data and so we'll remove Sex from active shortly.

BoreOfWhabylon · 25/02/2023 23:49

Justine posted this earlier today

www.mumsnet.com/talk/site_stuff/4749810-references-to-underage-sex-on-sex-board?reply=124196367

"JustineMumsnet · Today 11:44
Hi again... Wow so this took off overnight! It's pretty clear from the strength of feeling and reaction to my post that this isn't so much about the actual affects of moving the Sex topic into Active, or the fact that individually you can avoid seeing it by hiding it, it's as much about tone and feel of the site. As such it seems to me there's no point us waiting for the data and so we'll remove Sex from active shortly.

One of the issues that we've got is that Active is very much the home page of Mumsnet for many - and as ComeTheFckOnBridget says lots of other sites do this differently.

When we launched follow topics last month, many users asked for a way to see a feed of the latest threads from the topics they're following - we're working on that feature at the moment and it will be ready to launch soon and I think over time it could be that Active then evolves to become more of an index and less of a landing page. But we'll see how the introduction of feed goes and what the take up is like before thinking about any further changes.

One thing that's been useful about this discussion is that it's made it clear we should formalise our guidelines on how we moderate the Sex board. As we've said, we have not, over the years, had any particular issues with this board (wrt to pervs, sex pests etc) but I agree we could communicate some clearer boundaries with regard to safeguarding and expected behaviour, so thanks to all who've mentioned that - we'll get on to asap.

Something I want to put on record is that this decision to move Sex threads into Active conversations had absolutely zilch to do with the Smilemakers partnership. There was no pressure put on us to make this move and at no point in any thinking about this did Smilemakers come up. Over the years we've literally turned down millions of pounds from brands because we've categorically refused to engage in disingenuous marketing and/or take money from those brands which don't make parents' lives easier - I think we've shown that we're pretty good at resisting commercial pressure.

Thanks as ever for the feedback and good weekends to all Flowers"

And, as others have already pointed out, the sex topic has now been removed from active. Hopefully the sex chat/hookup threda will alao go

Sparklingbrook · 25/02/2023 23:49

So it doesn't matter if anyone cares or not-the Sex Topic will no longer appear in Active which is excellent.

BoreOfWhabylon · 25/02/2023 23:50

Sorry Sparkling X post Grin

Sparklingbrook · 25/02/2023 23:53

BoreOfWhabylon · 25/02/2023 23:50

Sorry Sparkling X post Grin

Grin that's ok. The latest news makes this thread a bit irrelevant I guess.

StrapOnYourHeroHair · 25/02/2023 23:55

Doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

Sparklingbrook · 25/02/2023 23:57

StrapOnYourHeroHair · 25/02/2023 23:55

Doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

It's being removed from Active so it doesn't matter any more.

Hawkins003 · 26/02/2023 00:06

Sparklingbrook · 25/02/2023 23:57

It's being removed from Active so it doesn't matter any more.

Considering the fuss that was made, I'm guessing this is the pro active posters

Sparklingbrook · 26/02/2023 00:13

Hawkins003 · 26/02/2023 00:06

Considering the fuss that was made, I'm guessing this is the pro active posters

What is the pro active posters? What are you guessing?

ErrolTheDragon · 26/02/2023 00:19

I guess since the protesters have been doing anti threads about it, this is the Pro threads in favor

It was the apathetic thread which didn't care either way.
They didn't care when it was in active, and presumably don't care now it isn't. Grin

Sparklingbrook · 26/02/2023 00:20

I think it's a good result for everyone, and in Justine's previous post she said things would be closely monitored.

CheezePleeze · 26/02/2023 00:23

I never cared either way.

I'm pleased for those who did care though.

Hawkins003 · 26/02/2023 00:30

Sparklingbrook · 26/02/2023 00:13

What is the pro active posters? What are you guessing?

There have been threads recently advocating that sex topics should not be in active threads, and in response I'm guessing that this thread is for mainly people that are not fussed about sex being in active threads,

And if people only know about people arguing about sex threads should not be in active, then it would appear most would agree if there is no threads to advocate support for sex threads in active.

Hawkins003 · 26/02/2023 00:31

ErrolTheDragon · 26/02/2023 00:19

I guess since the protesters have been doing anti threads about it, this is the Pro threads in favor

It was the apathetic thread which didn't care either way.
They didn't care when it was in active, and presumably don't care now it isn't. Grin

True.

WinterMusings · 26/02/2023 00:36

PhotoDad · 24/02/2023 12:44

I didn't really care one way or the other, but then I read some of the threads in Site Stuff, and some extremely interesting and valid points were made about various (unintended?) consequences. That changed my mind.

@PhotoDad I'm the same.

what I think is worse though is Mn Starting threads about vibrations, aimed at new mums reconnecting with themselves.

im no prude but it's changed the tone of the place to one where there's no support for women and no place to not be pressured about sex

StrapOnYourHeroHair · 26/02/2023 02:15

ErrolTheDragon · 26/02/2023 00:19

I guess since the protesters have been doing anti threads about it, this is the Pro threads in favor

It was the apathetic thread which didn't care either way.
They didn't care when it was in active, and presumably don't care now it isn't. Grin

Yep. I don’t care if it’s in there or not. So I couldn’t be called ‘pro’ per se - just indifferent.

Sparklingbrook · 26/02/2023 06:11

Hawkins003 · 26/02/2023 00:30

There have been threads recently advocating that sex topics should not be in active threads, and in response I'm guessing that this thread is for mainly people that are not fussed about sex being in active threads,

And if people only know about people arguing about sex threads should not be in active, then it would appear most would agree if there is no threads to advocate support for sex threads in active.

None of that matters.

SweetSakura · 26/02/2023 07:51

CheezePleeze · 26/02/2023 00:23

I never cared either way.

I'm pleased for those who did care though.

I think this is the important point. It's not about those who don't care either way . We should all care about protecting those people who would find it distressing to have the threads in active

PortiasBiscuit · 26/02/2023 07:55

I’m all for sex in its proper place, but there did definitely seem to be some sort of thing about making your thread title as explicit as possible , and these are not things I want to see randomly during my day.

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