To not actually care if the Sex topic is in active?

[PaperDoves]

I don't care. Do you?

YABU: Get Sex out of active!
YANBU: I really don't care.

'Mumsnet is one of the least sexy sites around' - do you think MN has never had problems with sex trolls and fetishists? Can you imagine the kind that is specifically drawn to a parenting site? We've encountered plenty over the years here, however unsexy the site is to you. They've made their threads about incontinence and more sinister topics for their own gratification and they've always been dealt with robustly. Don't think creeps don't come here for thrills, they do and always have done. And the choice to put threads asking for detailed rimming advice and sex chat into a more visible and prominent position on the site can only make that worse.

Disgusting attitude 🙄

Sure, there's going to be a certain type of men who's drawn to that. But teenagers aren't going to be among them.

I don't see why putting sex in active makes a difference. If they're trolling the sex board already they're not going to notice.

Great, well despite you being the authority on teenagers, safeguarding doesn't really work on a 'oh never mind, it won't happen so let's not bother' basis. If a site wants to host sexually explicit content and encourage users to sex chat as MN now does, there are some basic safeguards to put in place as a minimum and some kind of age verification is standard.

MN have explained putting Sex in Active is a decision made to increase the visibility of the board and give it more traffic. At the same time, they've said they won't be actively moderating or doing anything beyond pinning a message saying no one should send unwanted PMs. So far this has led to a thread standing for hours describing underage and non consensual sex for entertainment. So we have a more visible board, getting more posters, hosting this kind of content with MN's approval. That's why it's a problem in Active (and all the other changes they've made).

Thought the Harry & Meghan threads were worse tbh! 😆 I don't really see the issue since you can hide it anyway

This too, but those things I read made me wonder it's even part of the site at all. It was a bit disturbing

Well I have just had a link for a new forum. I will use it if mumsnet don't sort this issue out. I am thankful to those who have the energy to protest.

It doesn't bother me, I'm another one who can't understand the fuss. If you don't like it, don't read it or block it.

Clearly if there are worrying posts in the sex topic, these need addressing but that's true of any topic on MN, and is a separate issue from whether the topic should appear in Active.

Not a part of mumsnet that I use but I don't care it's in active and don't take offence. I'd rather have that than the sporner corner if that's what it's called, people talking about puss and boils

Actually the section talking about 'puss' is the litter tray. 😁

I’m off to book mark it. Forgot there’s a sec topic.

Sex!

No as could be outing.
i really quite like the sex in active. I enjoy reading it and regularly comment. The sexchat one is a particular good non judgmental place to find people (of all genders) to help you get off IYKWIM

It doesn't bother me either OP. Ironically I've seen more posts complaining about it being in active than posts from the sex board themselves. If people wish to leave Mumsnet because they aren't enjoying it, they do have that option.

The quantity of posts showed just how many people wanted it out of Active. But also wider concern for other things as a result of it being there.

It’s grim and making me rethink being registered/visiting here to be honest.

I’ve mentioned mumsnet threads to work colleagues in the past, would not do that now it’s gone seedy.

It’s not the talking about sex that’s the problem for me. If it was from women’s perspectives and around sex/sexual health I’d be all for it. It’s the very obviously male (despite their protestations) posters either posting to get their rocks off or pm-ing unwilling women. It’s going to get worse until this is just another male dominated space.

Definite echos of the misogynistic ‘sex positive’ movement.

Fair enough if that’s the kind of people you want to attract to mumsnet, but I’ve had enough of horny men attempting to use me for their gratification in real life to put up with it here.

I think it also shows a shift change though in who is the most important. Mumsnet should be driven by users - a decision like this would have been in the past started by getting feedback and certainly listening to them afterward.

now it is clearly driven by advertising and getting as much revenue in as possible.

how ,any of us joined because we didn’t like the way other boards were run

As a rape survivor, it can be quite distressing seeing some of these threads pop up on Active. I don't read them but I can see the titles. It's ignorant to dismiss the feels of women looking for support on MN with 'look the other way'. There's plenty of other sex chat rooms and forums on the internet and I don't feel that MN is the right place for the explicit nature of some of these posts. They're also not all as innocent as some posters like to make out.

I wasn’t that bothered but having read the threads in site stuff, I think it should be hidden from active and far better moderated. I do get the feeling that Mumsnet is far happier to let some dodgy threads run these days because they want the clicks.

I completely agree and it's frustrating that so many people are taking the "I'm alright jack" approach rathert than thinking how it might impact victims of rape and sexual abuse

Everyone knows what you mean. You’re not being edgy and amusing. Just a bit sad.

@Doesnthurttodouchebefore

The sexchat one is a particular good non judgmental place to find people (of all genders) to help you get off IYKWIM

Well yes we know what you mean, because you mean exactly what you said... no need for a nudge and wink as if you're being naughty 🤷🏻‍♀️

wasn’t trying to be edgy or cool. It’s not ‘sad’ how anyone gets ‘their kicks’ just personal ‘preference’. This thread was about the sex in active and I was just saying I was happy with it being there as I ‘enjoy’ it

I truly don’t care at all. Sometimes I’m intrigued and read them sometimes I don’t…..just like any other subject at all really. Surely if you don’t like a topic/conversation in active you just scroll past ?

I think on all the threads there's been about this it's been explained to death why people don't want it in Active.
And it's been removed from Active.