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Original poster

To feel a little hurt over something DH did?

33 replies

Emprexia · 09/02/2008 12:52

My father rang the other day to ask DH if he wanted in on a meal out they were planning for mothers day this year.

It'd be me, my mom, my aunt and my grandmother plus dad, dh and ds.

Its not a fancy restaurant, its a nice pub just up the road from us... we're talking 10gbp a head for a 3 course meal.

DH's reaction was "we can't afford it"

Then last night he went to a concert in Wolverhampton and spent 30gbp on a T-shirt!!!

So yeah, i'm a little annoyed that he's saying he can't afford to take me out for lunch on mothers day but can spend that much on a flaming band t-shirt.

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themildmanneredjanitor · 09/02/2008 12:53

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SparklyDYSONGothKat · 09/02/2008 12:53

for you!! bloodly men!!

LittleMissNorty · 09/02/2008 12:54

yanbu. selfish bastard ....some men just DO NOT think....

rookiemater · 09/02/2008 12:54

Yanbu. Go without him. Buy a souvenir t shirt

Maidamess · 09/02/2008 12:54

Since when did your dh decide what you spend money on? Ring your Dad back and say you'd love to come, and hang the consequences!

Unless......he's got something else up his sleeve?

Carmenere · 09/02/2008 12:54

I would probably spill bleach all over the t-shirt.

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Emprexia · 09/02/2008 12:58

Maidamess, if he has, he shall be redeemed, but until then he's in the dog house

We probably will go anyway, but its just the bitching and moaning about 'we can't afford it' that bothers me when he doesn't give a second thought to spending that kind of money on a t-shirt.

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WigWamBam · 09/02/2008 13:09

I'd have throttled him with the t-shirt by now.

I hope you've told him that he's being a dickhead? Otherwise he'll think that it's OK to treat you like this.

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 09/02/2008 13:10

Men! He will do it again unless you get him to explain why you can't afford £30 for a meal out for 3 but he can for a tshirt for one.

sox364 · 09/02/2008 13:12

I'd tell him the t shirt can go on ebay and the proceeds will take you to the meal without him!

Oblomov · 09/02/2008 13:21

Plus it is not £30 on you.
It is only £10 on YOU. He and ds get £20 spent on them
This is ridiculous and he needs a kick up the ass.

pelafina · 09/02/2008 13:42

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GetOrfMoiLand · 09/02/2008 13:45

put the beloved new t shirt in a boil was and shrink the thing. To add insult to injury it will then probably fit you, so you can wear it and piss him off.

Ha!

GetOrfMoiLand · 09/02/2008 13:45

i mean a boil wash (divvy)

FriedGreenTomatoes · 09/02/2008 14:03

YANBU. Sell the t-shirt on Ebay and use the money to pay for lunch

BTW - £30 is an obscene amount to spend on a tshirt!!

moondog · 09/02/2008 14:06

What was the concert?

Was the t shirt black??

ivykaty44 · 09/02/2008 14:22

So he knew he was gona spend £30 on a silly t shirt and therefore couldn't afford to take you out for luch. I would say he has a lot to learn - silly boy

ShinyHappyPeopleHoldingHands · 09/02/2008 14:25

Perhaps he already has something else planned for you as a surprise

ivykaty44 · 09/02/2008 14:52

Actually you are not his mother - so really it is your dc that should be doing something for you for mothers day. Perhaps your dc will make you a card or give you a pressie or take you out for lunch? perhaps they dont earn very much or recieve much pocket money so you will just get a little pressie.

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Emprexia · 09/02/2008 15:57

DS is only 17mo ivykaty, lol, so its DH's responsibility to do the mothersday bits for him atm.

moondog.. the concert was the Dropkick Murhpeys, and no, its not black, its a green and white striped football type one.

and no, i haven't said anything to him, it is his money that he's earned to be fair, its not really my place to say what he spends it on... i'm just of the opinion that if he can't afford dinner on mothers day that he can't afford a t-shirt either.

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ivykaty44 · 09/02/2008 16:01

I would wait till father day in June and go and buy a lovely ...... summer dress!

Kimi · 09/02/2008 16:01

Take his wallet and go out without him

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Emprexia · 09/02/2008 16:03

shoes.. shoes last much longer.. lol.. i can wear them all the time and go "ooh.. look.. and to think i could have wasted that money on you!"

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colditz · 09/02/2008 16:04

Oh don't start that "not my place" shite. You're his wife, not his maid, and this is 2008, not 1908. It IS you place to get a say in the family finances! He is only able to earn without paying for childcare because you look after your ds, or you would (depending on area) be coughing up to £300 a week on childcare.

You are contributing at LEAST as much as he is, and you DO have a right to protest when he acts like a spoilt bitch with the family cash (and yes chaps, when you have kids, it's not your cash any more, it's family cash)

squimlet · 09/02/2008 16:09

lol at ivykaty44 - spot on imo

quite frankly my dh regularly opens his mouth spouts sh1te and then thinks about what he says afterwards. It generally involves him grovelling to me on his knees so tbh I dont take a lot of notice of what he says.

And tbh if he says No about something thats my sign to go right ahead and do it anyway

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