This situation is destroying me

[Gerbera0]

We have been married for 2 years and in our late 30s (no kids).
everything was great between us (or so I thought) until he blindsided me one day that he wanted a divorce. This was completely out the blue and a terrible shock as I had zero idea he wasn’t happy. Long story short we decided to stay together after a lot of discussion but I found out 9 months later that he had been having an affair with a woman at his work the whole time (removing his wedding ring every day at work and spending a lot of time with her, booking hotel rooms etc).
when I found out he did the predictable thing of pleading for me to stay and being very apologetic every day for a few months. He swore to me it was completely over between them and he has been getting home every day from work at 4pm and spending all of his evenings and weekends with me and not being secretive with his phone etc.
its been incredibly traumatic but I have been trying to slowly process everything and try and make our marriage work.
anyway, yesterday I looked on her Facebook and saw that my husband is on her friends list (he wasn’t on it last week).
when I confronted him he got very angry and defensive and has barely spoken to me since.
is it just me or does he have some serious audacity to be annoyed with me about this?!
I don’t know what to do now. He has completely shut down and being very hostile since I confronted him. We live in his house which he had before we married. I am due inheritance next year which will enable me to get my own mortgage. Until then I feel trapped and have no one to speak to or anywhere to go other than to stay here. I feel suicidal

You need to leave and fast. Otherwise he could get half your inheritance. Get a divorce, your marriage is over and he’s a cheat.

As PP have said, you need to get divorced asap. Please don’t delay.

I imagine he knows you are due to inherit some money soon, and he may be trying to keep you onside until that happens. I’m not sure I understand the inheritance situation, but if you are expecting someone to die next year and leave you money, then they might die earlier, and you’ll have to share with him 😡

Is there anyone who would look after dog until you get straight? Anyone you could stay with?

I couldn't get past this no matter how much he begged and pleaded with me.

There was a guy I dated for about three years, was crazy about him. Thought we would eventually get married. Found out he was emotionally cheating. I gave him another chance but for at least a month I was paranoid of him cheating again, and I would grill him every day if he had talked to the OW. One day he hesitated when I asked and it felt like someone had kicked me in my gut, that was it for me I knew I couldn't live the rest of my life worrying and not trusting him.