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My DS is obsessed with numbers

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Driedlavender · 21/02/2023 10:00

He turned 4 in October.
I often feel embarrassed telling people or people finding out as I feel they may think it’s bragging or something.

There’s no other way to describe his connection with numbers, he absolutely loves them. He wants to know the biggest numbers in the world, he’s even talking about minus numbers now.
He can add and multiply in his head, he doubles numbers constantly and asks us to check on our phone calculator whether his answer is correct.
He loves numberblocks the CBeebies programme and watches it often.
Numbers make him happy.

Alongside that, he can read, they send home the Biff and Chip books and he reads then without any hesitation.
He also wants to know the specific names of colours, for example magenta.
For a while he wanted to know about the periodic table and the human body…it’s like he wants to learn constantly and his brain never rests.

His speech is fine, but to get him on a subject other than what he’s currently focused on is a struggle at times. He even says things like “But why can’t I talk about numbers, I want to talk about them all the time”. So he’s totally aware he’s doing it, he just wants to continue.

I have noticed it causing problems with social engagement with other children of his own age. He finds adults to speak to, as he wants to ask them questions about numbers and whatever else he’s interested in at the time (mostly numbers).
He asks the age of everyone we meet, adults usually humour him and tell him their age, then he’ll say how many years until you are … and then ask them to work it out, at which point they look at me and smile, some will continue to answer but some just aren’t interested which is obviously fair enough!

He’s a very friendly, sweet, confident and at times very funny boy, but I don’t know if we’re looking at something more e.g. ASD. DP (his dad) who is very similar in lots of ways (maths and science brain) thinks he’s just clever and people don’t need a label all the time , in his words.

If you got this far, thank you so much for reading.

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Mariposista · 21/02/2023 16:25

OP you will quickly learn that literally everything on MN is explained with 'SEN/ND'. Your lad could just love maths!! And that is not a crime! Just like every obsession kids have (football/minecraft/whatever) encourage it, but make sure he has time focussing on other things too. When he is older you can sign him up to maths olympiad clubs etc. Maybe he would like chess (number-y people tend to have good logic/problem solving). Either way, he sounds like a great kid!

Sadlifter · 21/02/2023 16:33

AFluster · 21/02/2023 10:30

Every child I’ve ever met has unusual knowledge in their specific area of interest. My DS likes numbers but he couldn’t name very many insects (for example), a 3yo with an interest in insects might not know their cube numbers but they’d know what an Asian hornet is.

I don’t think it’s unusual for children to have unusual knowledge of one or two specific areas of interest.

😅😅

Could this be more mumsnet.

I might add that at 3 mine could barely write out numbers and had no impressive special interest. They managed to get good exam results and go to excellent universities.

Cubed numbers and Asian hornets snort

AFluster · 21/02/2023 16:56

Sadlifter · 21/02/2023 16:33

😅😅

Could this be more mumsnet.

I might add that at 3 mine could barely write out numbers and had no impressive special interest. They managed to get good exam results and go to excellent universities.

Cubed numbers and Asian hornets snort

Your child wasn’t especially good at anything? They weren’t more advanced in their reading/writing/throwing/dancing/singing/putting clothes on/potty training/naming flowers/enjoying different foods/tying their shoelaces/speech/etc etc.

That sounds like the kind of assertion my mum would make about me. It’s not true though, she just didn’t care to notice.

cptartapp · 21/02/2023 17:00

My nephew was like this, he has ASD and is now doing a maths degree. Apparently maths undergraduates are six times more likely to be on the spectrum. Also very anxious and not great socially.

Sadlifter · 21/02/2023 17:07

AFluster · 21/02/2023 16:56

Your child wasn’t especially good at anything? They weren’t more advanced in their reading/writing/throwing/dancing/singing/putting clothes on/potty training/naming flowers/enjoying different foods/tying their shoelaces/speech/etc etc.

That sounds like the kind of assertion my mum would make about me. It’s not true though, she just didn’t care to notice.

They were lovely kids and ended up doing well. Do all kids have to be brilliant at something at THREE? They were especially good at things, but not until later. Sorry your mum didn't think you were an especially gifted 3 year old.

toomuchlaundry · 21/02/2023 17:37

Many 3yos are good at being threenagers, does that count @AFluster

AFluster · 21/02/2023 17:40

toomuchlaundry · 21/02/2023 17:37

Many 3yos are good at being threenagers, does that count @AFluster

My 3yo is definitely the best at that

FourFour · 21/02/2023 18:01

Op why are you looking for a reason or problem? He loves maths, so let him be. My dh is the same and no SN issues. Ds's best friend is a maths genius and no issues either.

toomuchlaundry · 21/02/2023 18:37

@FourFour possibly because her child is struggling with social interactions and prefers adults to children of own age. That could be their age or something more. There is liking numbers and then there is being proficient in numbers. Many children can count to 100 and recognise the numbers from a very early age, but can't manipulate them, they have just learnt them by rote. Children who can cube numbers etc at age 3 are possibly more likely to have hypernumeracy (similar to hyperlexia for reading) and that can be linked with autism (but not always).

Even if they don't have autism it is good if they get additional support at school both to ensure they don't get bored with maths but also with their social interactions

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