I am currently on a very low income and my dad is aware of this. My car insurance is due at the end of this month. Its service is also due now. I had mentioned this to him about six weeks before my renewal date as I was researching to find a rough price of what I should expect to pay. I didn't ask my dad for help with my car insurance, but she offered of his own volition to pay for it if I paid for the car service. This was very kind of him.
I have saved the money for my car to be serviced. Today I mentioned to my dad I had been looking at car insurance quotes. He then responded by saying he had been thinking about the situation and that he actually is not in a position to help me with my car insurance.
AIBU to be quite upset about this? It's not about not receiving the money from him (although I don't know how I'm going to now get the money together for my car insurance before the end of this month!), but it's more that he promised me something and then casually mentioned several weeks later when I brought it up again that she couldn't fulfil that promise. Obviously we can't always keep minor promises if something comes up but this one is a fairly big deal! I said to him that's ok, I understand, but in future I would prefer it if he didn't say he could do something that he wasn't going to be able to fulfil. He didn't respond to this - he simply carried on reading his book and I am supposed to be ok with the situation.
A similar (less expensive) situation happened once before but generally I thought he was fairly reliable.
I just wish he'd come to me as soon as he knew he couldn't go through with it rather than leaving me to go to him and landing an unexpected expense on me at short notice. I don't know when he was planning on telling me if I hadn't prompted him. I feel like he hasn't treated me very well. AIBU?