Moral dilemma with porn use

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Please help me work this out. All my life, I feel porn use is kind of normalised - mainly men but women too. I guess I've always accepted that watching it is very widespread, so 'normal' and I haven't judged what people watch in their own homes.. But it's never sat well with me.

I hear so much about trafficking and taking advantage of vulnerable girls, I feel that as my own girls have become teens/young adults, I'm feeling more uneasy about my partner watching porn.

No one really knows if the 'actress' is fully consenting, and if not, are people watching 'rape' unwittingly?

I'm finding it really difficult to reconcile these thoughts and if I can't, I'm not sure if I can continue my relationship. I just can't seem to stop it going around my head. So many awful stories of abused young women, it's hard to accept my partner watching it - he's lovely and kind but thinks all porn is consentual.

If you listen to female former porn 'stars' talk about their experiences it is pretty horrifying.
Just yesterday one woman was explaining they had to be recorded saying how great the shoot was, that it wasn't coerced, etc, before they were paid. She had experienced some truly awful experiences and still recorded her consent video because she wanted the money she had been promised.

You're being very naive if you think women aren't coerced into lesbian porn by men.

And for the record, they can have all sorts of things inserted inside them for 'viewing pleasure'.

This woman who was in her teens when she was groomed into girl-on-girl porn thinking that's all she would do. But this kind of porn, and other 'soft porn' is the gateway for getting young women into the industry. She explains various pressures and the ways in which she found herself in increasingly distressing situations.

open.spotify.com/episode/7GxlncAh2XdWtVwj2DGTtp?si=GU48fhHiQ7SLu3VxbKK9Hg