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Wedding dress - feeling ripped off

71 replies

Helloitsmejan · 18/02/2023 20:32

Hi - really here to rant.

Had a dress that I bought for what was to be our civil ceremony, but then got pregnant and then had a miscarriage and with all of that we just decided to put the wedding on the back burner, whilst we try IVF. Anyways finally decided to put my dress for sale on stillwhite. Never worn but appreciate I was never going to get my money back on it, so reduced to half what I paid for it.

A week or so later I had an interested buyer who just wouldn't really take no for an answer, kept telling me she was a new mum so money was tight, they were going to have a small wedding and the dress would be perfect but wanted considerably less for it. I kept being polite but stating I couldn't go down essentially to 70% what I paid. At this stage I was also having second thoughts and thinking maybe to just keep the dress as I did love it, but eventually we agreed to 60% off what I had originally paid. Even on the day she was to pay she kept stalling and asking if I could reduce further or send it postage free. All with the whole I'm a new mum message.

Anyways finally sent it to her and literally 3 days later it's back on stillwhite for considerably more than what I was looking for from the same lady! There is no chance its been worn by her at all. She even states its never been worn. She claimed she was going to get married spring time! Just feeling stupid and know it's my own fault for selling it and letting her "I'm a new mum" message to make me feel I was doing a nice thing!

Anyways I don't even know why I'm writing this to be honest - just prob emotional cause if everything had gone to plan would be counting down for the baby and then perhaps I would have also been thinking about the wedding down the line.

OP posts:
Yummymummy2020 · 18/02/2023 20:36

Some people are just awful op. You will probably get the whole she bought it so she can do what she likes, but it sounds like she did rip you off and that’s wrong. People do the whole buy and sell thing as a career and plenty lie to get a good deal to resell. Of course she may have changed her mind about your dress, but I doubt it!!! She won’t have a bit of luck doing that on you!

youshouldnthaveasked · 18/02/2023 20:39

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RedHelenB · 18/02/2023 20:41

I'd let everyone on the site know what you sold it her for.

Sugargliderwombat · 18/02/2023 20:43

Post the link!

Sugargliderwombat · 18/02/2023 20:44

Let's waste her time and put her off ever doing it again!!!

billy1966 · 18/02/2023 20:44

What an awful person.

You poor pet.

That's both upsetting and annoying.

Mrsbclinton · 18/02/2023 20:44

Ahh thats a really shitty thing to happen to you, I believe what goes around comes around…..

OutFortheBirds · 18/02/2023 20:46

Sorry OP. You poor thing. I’d be livid.
They’re probably touts, you know - having no intention to wear and just making money by doing what they did. I’d report them to StillWhite.

PatChaunceysFruitCake · 18/02/2023 20:46

That's horrible 😞

Wittyend · 18/02/2023 20:48

waiting on that one halfwit who will comment that YABU and she has every right to sell it for whatever she wants bla bla

But no I don’t think YABU at all, really shitty thing to do. Post the link I will gladly go and waste her time for a while 🤣

Cakecakecheese · 18/02/2023 20:48

Can you report her to the site? That's a sneaky underhand tactic and I bet she does it a lot.

Wittyend · 18/02/2023 20:49

And I’m so sorry to hear of your miscarriage, thinking of you 💗

Icepinkeskimo · 18/02/2023 20:51

It’s scumbag behaviour, I hope karma comes to bite her bum big time.
OP I hope you have some sunny wonderful days ahead x

bossybloss · 18/02/2023 20:54

Thats an awful thing to do. I remember my aunt selling at her first car boot sale. A buyer bought something that had belonged to her late husband and she was initially reluctant to part with it. She sold it at the boot sale, then when wandering round saw it for sale considerably marked up. She was heartbroken. This was in the 89s and I have never forgotten.

Please do post a link as I would have loved to have had the ability to annoy the person who fooled my aunt all those years ago!

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 18/02/2023 20:54

While I understand why you’re upset (and you have every right to be upset about her lies), the reality is 40% of the original purchase price is good.

Does it make you feel any better to know that she may well end up getting less than she paid?

Kleptronic · 18/02/2023 20:56

You're a nice person. She's an arsehole. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm sorry for your loss 💐

PriamFarrl · 18/02/2023 20:59

How nasty. She has to be her for her whole life. Imagine being such an unpleasant person. You are better than her.

MistyGreenAndBlue · 18/02/2023 21:04

I'm in for a bit of time wasting Grin

It would be my pleasure - the nasty cow.

MysteryBelle · 18/02/2023 21:08

She’s a liar and a conman. Op, you need to expose her on that site and report her if it’s appropriate. She is a fraud. I’m sorry you felt you had no choice in selling your wedding dress and then have this happen.

Ceryneianhind · 18/02/2023 21:08

wow I'm all for "well you sold it, she can do what she likes with it" but seriously, to lie to you and give you all that guff - shitty SHITTY behaviour...

I'd like to lurk on the link..

Applesandcarrots · 18/02/2023 21:09

Very bluntly.

All the new mums on buying websites are liars. There was no "i am new mum and have no money" who would actually aound in any way genuine.

Bensteeth · 18/02/2023 21:11

Hi OP, I voted YANBU because it’s an awful thing to do and I’d be really cross (probably report them to the website actually in the hope that they’d be banned) but I am wondering is there any chance that she has tried it on and it doesn’t fit or look as she expected so she is selling to raise funds to buy another? Might be worth a message?

oishutup · 18/02/2023 21:12

You're not stupid, OP, you are lovely and I'm so sorry that you were treated like this.
I fully believe what goes around comes around....

sqirrelfriends · 18/02/2023 21:12

Ugh, what a bitch.

Im sorry OP.

ReformedWaywardTeen · 18/02/2023 21:13

Alot of brides use Facebook groups to chat and share dresses and scam warnings, there's one for Bride book that is huge on Facebook amongst others.
I would be posting the link and explaining what an utter cow she was to take advantage of you, considering you are vulnerable.

I would so message her as well

Can you not report her to StillWhite?