Stranger things & DD11

[TheColourofspring]

My DD 11 has watched Stranger things- I wasn’t sure about letting her watch it but another one of her friends did, I talked to the parents before about it & decided to let her watch it & she absolutely loves it and wasn’t scared by it. She is, of course, younger than the age limit on it. I don’t generally let her watch stuff that has an older rating but probably half their year group have seen it and I have watched it and think that it depends on the child. She’s also watched the final Harry Potter film of the same rating.

The issue now is that another friend in school who isn’t allowed to watch it is constantly berating her for it and actually said to her last week ‘my parents think your parents are irresponsible’ so it’s obviously been discussed at home. DD was very upset about it.

Aibu to say something to the parents or just leave it? I don’t mind them thinking what they like about us but it’s the fact that they said it to the child and now she’s relaying that back to DD.

Well friends don't constantly berate each other for a start. So maybe forget who's watching what and concentrate on teaching your dd how to handle that. Is she instigating the conversation ie rubbing other girls nose in it, or is the berating spontaneous? This won't be the last time s friend tries to push their opinions on her, give her the tools with which to handle it.

9 year old watched the first series, and was bored.

I find it a bit strange the other child isn't allowed to watch it. I'm not sure what the rating is but assuming 12a, nothing earth shattering is going to happen between 11 and 12 to make it suddenly appropriate.

Could be that they are over protective and did say that or that the child is lashing out. I would leave it but remember it.

I'd ignore. I know someone who was told off by her church friends for getting her dd's ears pierced at 10 as now their kids would want to.
Dd went to a friend's house and they were playing on the mum's Nintendo ds (few years ago) I decided to buy one for dd for Christmas and was told off by the mother as now her kids would want one. I got the idea from dd playing it at your bloody house, you bossy cow!
At least the mum isn't saying it to your face I guess, so just ignore

Definitely ignore 'different parents have different rules and that's ok'. Deprive it of oxygen. It's never a good idea to encourage overthinking or that every conflict is resolvable.

I didn't like stranger things when I tried to watch it with my dd who is 12, just found it creepy and unpleasant but she wasn't at all scared but my other dd I can imagine being terrified.