I've always had a weird hunch I'm going to die aged 32 - and I'm 31.

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Kind of that really
Was once asked in amongst a series of random questions as a silly questionnaire "do you have a secret hunch of when you're going to die" and I replied automatically "at 32" at it's sort of stuck.
Have joked about it for a few years (had to stop after my DP got really cross about it).
Thing is - I turn 32 in July, and whilst my logical brain is trying to be reasonable (how could I possibly know?) stranger things have happened, and my Mum said the least reassuring thing ever when I spoke about it a couple of years ago which was "if you keep thinking it, you'll end up causing it subconciously"

So, Mumsnet, AIBU?

Very reassured! I didn't realise it was so common.

I do count magpies and think that's going to define my day etc, so I'm clearly wired for ascribing meaning to coincidence

I never had an exact age in mind, but I was utterly convinced I wouldn't see 40. Then COVID hit just after I turned 39! I'm 42 now and obviously still here 🙂

YABU. My grandfather and great grandfather on my dad’s side both died at 58 so my dad was convinced he would follow suit. He was celebrating his 75th birthday at the beginning of the month.

^ this.

But in all honesty this is lighthearted? Right?!

I’ve never had an age as such, just that I definitely won’t make it past 50, I’m 32 so anytime in the next 18 years.
I had children very young, youngest of 3 born before I turned 20. Married, set up a business and got my first mortgage before 25.
All kids would’ve likely flown the nest before I reach 40, so in my mind there’s no way I can live beyond 50 because there won’t be anything left for my story if I’ve already done it all.
I know it’s irrational and life and death doesn’t work like that of course, doesn’t stop me thinking it though.

My DH was convinced he'd die at 21. He turned 30 last month.

I had this about 31 and had a big party for my 32nd birthday!
My mum had a massive heart attack at 31 and thankfully is still around, but I was certain the same thing would happen to me and I wouldn't survive it.
Clearly I have, and it feels like life really kicked up a gear since then! I'd been treading water up to that point as I was so certain I would die that I didn't want to start anything I didn't want to leave behind. I'm now 35 and have one absolute cracker of a child, another on the way, bought a house, got married, got promoted twice and am the happiest I've ever been. Not bad for three years! I wish the same for you OP!!

I love that you went to confront death in Miami! 😂

My father was convinced he would die at 52, but he went on until a few months past his 88th birthday. I suspect that you'll be just as wrong as he was! 🙂

My Dad was convinced he was would die before 50. There was no convincing this otherwise sensible and exceptionally clever man. I think it was PTSD from losing his father fairly young. Anyway, my Dad is 83 now, 84 in a month or so. None of us know when our number is up but I do hope you get past this OP.

From a teenager I had this 'insight' I was going to die in my late 30s. I'm now 41 and still kicking, but I was very ill in hospital with pneumonia aged 39- I thought my time was up...it was horrid!!

Ever since I've been a teenager I thought I would die early 30s

I'm 52 now and still feel as though I'm on borrowed time

Let's hope I outlive you all!!!

I was convinced throughout my childhood I was going to become a mum at 19. I was 23. I was convinced my twins were going to be born on a specific date ( Halloween, I dreamt it) that would make them prem; I went to term. These hunches are rarely if ever correct.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/2012_phenomenon

Does anyone remember that thing?
Everyone kind of forgot about by the time 2012 rolled around. I remember thinking some time in early 2013 ...oh, all the bullshit that was talked was indeed bullshit.

It’s funny isn’t it, I reckon 90%+ of the pregnant women I’ve ever known have “known” they would give birth early. Obviously hardly anyone did.

Thank you everyone, you've made me feel much better.

I think it's been a rough couple of years and I've latched on to what was, at first, a bit of a joke.

My drum was convinced she was going to die when she was 47. She lived until she was 84.

One way to think about it, is to really live your life and then every day after 32 is a bonus.

I thought my DH would die at 24. It was a hunch, I think because everyone always said how much he looked like James Dean. He didn’t die at 24, the irritating bastard (light-hearted, love him dearly) is still alive and kicking. It’s odd the things that stick with us though - I’ve always had a hunch I’ll die of a heart attack. No family history, no heart condition, no risk factors…

Mine was 25. I couldn’t imagine ever being older than that.

Actually, thinking about it now, despite being nearly twice as old I still feel 25.

Maybe you’ll feel 32 forever?

Shouldn't we be living every day as if it was our last anyway?

Thanks so much for this, it's helped me a lot, I have these worries/thoughts too. They came about as I have actually had multiple premonitions about death which did come true but now my brain is on high alert and will make up ages I think all my loved ones are going to die at..
Which as I type is actually totally different to how the premonitions present but in the middle of the nights it's hard sometimes to tell the difference!

So, how did it go? It’s July 2024 now so I’m assuming you crossed 32?

Jesus, is that you?

Hate to break it to you…just keep an eye of judas 😁

I used to think the same thing and it was 32 for me as well. I'm now nearly 48. I did split up with boyfriend at 32 and haven't had a significant relationship since, but I'm still here. I've no real advice just letting you know you're not alone.
Oh, didn't know this was an old thread.

I went through a phase of something similar many years ago OP. My aunt died suddenly age 40 and I became fixated on the thought that I wouldn’t outlive her. I passed that milestone and thankfully many more since. I’m 70 this year and still hanging on 😊