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AIBU?

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Original poster

not to tell my dh what I've done today

44 replies

nametaken · 08/02/2008 14:07

I'm supposed to be at college on Fridays but it is closed today for training - however, my dh doesn't know this and I haven't told him.

Instead of spending the day cleaning and ironing I went for a Lomi Lomi Hawaian Massage (bliss) brought a shop made sandwhich and ate it in the car on the way home. Now I'm going to bed for an hour as the massage has made me drowsy.

And the house still isn't clean. But dh won't dare say anything coz he thinks I've been working hard at college.

AIBU?

OP posts:
NatalieJane · 08/02/2008 14:08

YANBU. At all.

Bellavita · 08/02/2008 14:09

No you are not been unreasonable it is your day to do with what you like.

CountessDracula · 08/02/2008 14:09

surely he would be pleased that you had had a day like that for yourself!
Mine is always on at me to do that

etchasketch · 08/02/2008 14:10

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moljam · 08/02/2008 14:10

sounds like bliss!

yanbu!enjoy it-stop worrying!

LardyMardyDaisy · 08/02/2008 14:10

YANBU at all.....you lucky thing

binkleandflip · 08/02/2008 14:10

lol at 'shop made sandwich'

Calm down!!

TillyScoutsmum · 08/02/2008 14:10

Sounds like a blissful day... He wouldn't really be pissed off would he ? Its only 1 day - plenty of time to get the housework done

doggiesayswoof · 08/02/2008 14:12

Agree @CD - mine would be telling me to leave the housework and get some time to myself when I got the chance.

dingdong05 · 08/02/2008 14:13

You had a day off? You crazy cat!
No YANBU imo, you are having a day to yourself, and if you think him indoors would give you any kind of gyp about it then keep it to yourself. It's a shame you can't share your day with him though.

GetOrfMoiLand · 08/02/2008 14:16

one of my great friends told me, that when she was a SAHM in the late 70s sometimes she used to skive off the housekeeping and bugger off to the shops with her friend.

In order to explain to her dh about not bothering to clean the house/cook dinner etc, whilst she was at the shops she would arrange to have the car fully valeted.

Then, after a lovely lazy day, she would go home, open all the car doors, put chamois leathers and car wash all over the drive, go and out old clothes on and sit down and have a cup of tea.

Then when her dh came home from work, she would be mopping her brow 'oh, darling, i thought I would valet your car for you as a a surprise, it's such hard work.

Cue her dh thinking she was superwife, telling her to sit and put her feet up whilst he cooked the dinner and ordered the kids (home from school at this point) to tidy the house.

She is a smart lady!

HonoriaGlossop · 08/02/2008 14:36

GetOrf, I love that story

Clever lady, that....

FAQ · 08/02/2008 14:44

lol GetOrf - that sounds just like my mum.......I swear she could hear my dad's car when it was a few streets away as she'd always manage to "look busy" when he arrived home and managed to convince him she'd been hard at work all day

Re OP - YANBU.

MrsMattie · 08/02/2008 14:47

YANBU. Occasionally I keep DH in the dark about my movements and treat myself to some relaxation instead. if you don't claw that time to yourself, you often don't get it.

kel78 · 08/02/2008 14:47

Thay sounds great, good for you I wish I had a day like that

Lulumama · 08/02/2008 14:49

would your DH begrudge you a day out for yourself?

NorthernLurker · 08/02/2008 14:54

YANBU!

Of course if he says 'have you had a massage and a shop bought sandwich today' I think you will have to say 'yes' but I'm sure thats unlikely. Of course if he does say that - you'll know he's been spending secret time on Mnet - and that will give you the moral highground anyway!

Mellieandmin · 08/02/2008 15:08

YANBU! I wish I had had a day like that instead of making a complete * up on my dd's birthday cake. I look forward to the sighing and eye rolling tomorrow.

So, are you booking the next massage for the next training day?? I would!!

Cappuccino · 08/02/2008 15:12

why would you lie?

duchesse · 08/02/2008 15:23

Shop-bought sandwich? You lush, you!

You have snatched a day's respite. What's not to like or admire about it?

Anna8888 · 08/02/2008 15:24

YANBU at all.

Original poster
nametaken · 08/02/2008 15:29

ah, I feel refreshed now after that lovely nap.

The reason I'm gonna lie is because my dh would be resentful that I had an easy day and would also therefore expect me to do all the drudge work the whole week-end to make up for not doing anything today. He is very hard on me.

OP posts:
Fireflyfairy2 · 08/02/2008 15:38

He couldn't be that hard on you if he supports you going to college......

Original poster
nametaken · 08/02/2008 15:48

college only one day a week, part-time work other 4 days - dh works away from Sunday night till Friday night and me here on my own all that time with 3 dc's doing everything - and he'd still effing winge if he knew about today.

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TillyScoutsmum · 08/02/2008 15:50

NT - In that case - I think your little lie is justified...

Am very though - I want a massage !

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