Treating grandkids the same - should you?

[grandparentfairness]

AIBU to think grandparents should treat their grandkids the same?

My dad will sometimes give money to DD when we visit - DD visits them with me more often than DS. My mum will remind my dad that if he treats one of them he needs to treat both, whether DS visits or not and I agree with her.

DH and DS visited his parents this weekend and DS was given a small gift. I questioned DH and asked where DDs gift was and why he didn't say anything to his parents about it. DH thinks I'm making a mountain out of a molehill and DS feels he's done something wrong.

So do you think grandkids should be treated the same or am I being over sensitive?

yeah it's about the scale if one kid goes to visit g'parents and the other does not it's ok for them to offer (and for you to accept) minor bribes along the lines of chocolate biscuits / cake / small gifts of thing they think she will like without them sending stuff back for other siblings IF and only IF other sibling could have visited too and would be as welcome and treated the same if he had actually gone to see them.

Real money which to me £20 is better done equally and not related to you get this because you came to see us.

If the kids are quite young I would always encourage my kids to share monetary gifts with each other. For example when they are receiving the gift from grandma at the time say, thank you grandma and suggest to them that they can share some of that with your brother/sister when you get home and vice versa.

I certainly wouldn’t be expecting grand parents to be shelling out extra cash.

Birthdays, Christmas, and if they are both there. If only one is, and they get a treat then I see nothing wrong with that.