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Neighbour reported me ASB

32 replies

Mygosh · 13/02/2023 10:21

Over Christmas I said several visitors. My now ex, came on Christmas Eve and parked in the communal car park.

On Christmas day, he drove me to the pub to collect my car. On returning, the car park was full, so was my driveway so he parked in front of the grass area shown on my map.

His car was there for 24 hours, he went home boxing day. This is the only time a visitor of mine has parked there in the 18 months I've been here.

My neighbour reported me to my landlord for blocking his driveway. There was plenty of room for him to pass. Also we were on good terms, he could knock at my door any time.

I'm worried this will affect my tenancy. I tried talking to the neighbour to apologise but he told me to shut up and go away. I understand some other people haven't been considerate about parking and feel that he's picking on me because I am female and live alone. I've heard the neighbour shouting at another female neighbour. To think that I offered to do his shopping etc when he said he wasn't well.

Car was parked where this red car is, but tighter to the kerb. Map shows layout.

Neighbour reported me ASB
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NotTooOldPaul · 13/02/2023 10:25

It looks as if you parked at the side of the road. What is wrong with that? Your neighbour is being ridiculous.

takealettermsjones · 13/02/2023 10:28

From the picture/diagram, it does look like the red car could be causing an obstruction. That said your neighbour shouldn't have been rude to you.

But it's been seven weeks; surely if it was going to affect your tenancy it would have been mentioned by now? Honestly if it comes up I'd just deny all knowledge. And don't offer to do the shopping any more!

TirisfalPumpkin · 13/02/2023 10:28

I think ideally he could have parked at the end of your drive (blocking you in but not your neighbour) - but tbh your neighbour sounds like an arsehole. I would avoid him, certainly don’t offer any future favours, and in the unlikely event there’s any landlord complaints, just explain calmly and factually (and mention the verbal abuse experienced and witnessed).

Mygosh · 13/02/2023 10:32

He didn't park on my drive because I already had 2 cars parked there and although my map doesn't show it, there are neighbours on that side too. I was warned about my next door neighbour but thought he was harmless.

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Mygosh · 13/02/2023 10:34

It's possible that the delay is due to the landlord. I got the letter on Saturday saying that they were investigating ASB.

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Clymene · 13/02/2023 10:34

Why didn't he block your drive rather than your neighbour's?

Dotjones · 13/02/2023 10:36

Clymene · 13/02/2023 10:34

Why didn't he block your drive rather than your neighbour's?

That was what I was wondering too. Plus it looks from the photograph that if the red car was parked a little further back it wouldn't have blocked in anyone at all. (I know it's not the car in question just parked similarly.)

Anontodayforhelp · 13/02/2023 10:39

He couldn't park on my drive. I've updated the map to show why. The other cars on the photo were not there on the day either.

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HundredMilesAnHour · 13/02/2023 10:40

Well from the photo/diagram, it certainly looks like you were completely blocking your neighbour's access. Your neighbour isn't being very nice about it but he's within his rights to be fed up about it. Why didn't your ex just park further away somewhere with actual space where he wasn't blocking a drive and just walk? Did you ask your neighbour if it was ok to block his drive for 24 hours? (sounds like you didn't, you just assumed).

weightymatters73 · 13/02/2023 10:41

So when you are asked to say;

It's not my car
No one who lives here owns that car
I am no longer in contact with the owner of that car
(and if they persist)
XX owns that car, please contact them.

I'm at a loss how you can be reported when it's not your car?

Scienceadvisory · 13/02/2023 10:42

I don't know if its just your diagram and the angle of your photo but it does look like your visitor blocked your neighbour's driveway. It probably would have been better to park on the grass (at least partially). I don't think your neighbour should have escalated to the landlord if this is the only incident and he knew whose house the car owner was in but I can understand him being frustrated by the lack of consideration.

TirisfalPumpkin · 13/02/2023 10:43

Ah right, I see what you mean. Yeah, in that case, I don’t see the issue with the parking. Nobody blocked in (says in OP you could get past him), not on double yellows, not on a junction. Are you saying he’s reported you to the police and they’re investigating anti social behaviour? Is that even a thing any more?

jitteryquick · 13/02/2023 10:44

Your neighbour is being a complete arse and has gone completely over the top.

I do agree though from your photo / diagram that it looks like the car would be blocking your neighbours driveway.

Still no excuse to report you though!

Anontodayforhelp · 13/02/2023 10:45

It was definitely not my intention to block his driveway. There is room for 2 cars on this part of the road. The neighbour reports people for parking on the grass too. Might be an idea to deny all knowledge 😂😂

LIZS · 13/02/2023 10:47

It does look as if it would have been difficult to pass safely. Why did he not park on the road opposite the deadend? However unless it was illegally parked your ll can't take much action.

PaterPower · 13/02/2023 10:53

You’d hope that, for a one off ‘offence’ like this, the HA or whoever it is will just take one look and dismiss the ASB nonsense.

If you were repeatedly blocking his drive then fair enough, but once at Christmas?! Some people really have nothing going on in their lives.

And yes, I suspect he only shouts like that at people he thinks he can dominate. If you were a 20 year old, 6’ plus, bloke then he wouldn’t even have squeaked. If he tries it on again, be assertive and show him you’re not prepared to tolerate his bullying. And yeah, fuck doing his shopping!

Mygosh · 13/02/2023 10:54

Sorry if confusing with 2 user names. This is why he's me ex, because he knew best 🤣🤣

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Tessasanderson · 13/02/2023 10:56

Here is a mind blowing thought. Why not park further away and.........walk.

Amazes me how people would rather inconvenience someone else than walk for 10 minutes. You didnt have any more room and your guest blocked your neighbour in. Seems pretty clear cut.

Your neighbour didnt have to report you (Cant understand the point) but you and your visitor caused it imo

MaMaMaBelle · 13/02/2023 10:58

Looking at your pic, I'm wondering if that's the street I lived in briefly 20 odd years ago. I remember once being shouted at for parking near that house, when it wasn't even my car! Surely can't be the same guy

Mygosh · 13/02/2023 11:03

Yes, I agree that my ex should've parked outside the area. Just didn't want an argument on Xmas day, he was always right. But there was definitely room for the neighbour to pass.

Mamama I'm in Northamptonshire, ring any bells?

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MaMaMaBelle · 13/02/2023 11:14

Mamama I'm in Northamptonshire, ring any bells

Yes! It was my now dh's house, parents lived elsewhere in the village. There is a pub very close by?

Mygosh · 13/02/2023 11:21

Mamama haha what are the odds of that? Yes, the pub is over the main road. I go to the pub in another village as that one's not the friendliest. Neighbour must've had a vendetta for many years 😂😂

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Hesma · 13/02/2023 11:24

Why did he not block you in? Makes more sense. That was a stupid place to park

Tessasanderson · 13/02/2023 11:29

Here is the crux of the matter....Yes, I agree that my ex should've parked outside the area. Just didn't want an argument on Xmas day, he was always right

You took the easier route to just let him park there. You inflicted your issue on your neighbour. No comment on how batshit your neighbour is but in this instance you made a decision to inconvenience him.

MaMaMaBelle · 13/02/2023 11:38

Haha, yes pub has different people now to when I used to go. I remember when that was the actual main road, and behind your house was a field..
Anyway, yes there's plenty room there. Hopefully it won't come to anything x

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