Offended I won't dogsit

[Dogsitterwoes]

A not-close friend found out I do petsitting through a website that matches up pet owners and sitters, free of charge, and boy her eyes lit up. She asked if I could dog sit for her. I said no and explained I only did it now and then through that site as then I'm insured, and I do it as a way to have a little free break somewhere interesting.
I pick ones with fairly straightforward animals I can leave for a few hours a day. The owners are happy with this, and I take very good care of their pets.
She seems to be a bit offended I don't want to stay at her house 5 miles away from home looking after 3 high-need rescue dogs that are never left alone. There is literally nothing in it for me, it would be doing her a massive favour, and I don't know her well enough for that.
I can't decide if she genuinely can't grasp there's a difference, or is just hoping to push me into it. She brings it up every time I see her. If I say but I won't be insured, she says she doesn't mind. If I say but it's where I live, she says I'd be working during the day anyway (wfh) and I can do that at hers.
Would I be the A to stop giving her logical reasons and outright tell her her dogs sound like bloody hard work and she needs to pay someone, as no ones going to volunteer? I think she can't grasp that it's not a big honour/joy to spend time with her 'babies'.

[MelaniesFlowers]

Just say no. Don’t give any reasons as she’ll just find a way around them.

[plumduck]

Maybe say you've said no and you don't know why she keeps pushing it but it's making you very uncomfortable and can she please stop.

[Emmamoo89]

YANBU

[Catoneverychair]

That'd be about £100 a day saved, of course she's pushy.

[MoroccanRoseHChurch]

“I’ve said no, and I’d really like it if you can respect that.”

I’m practising this line, ready for a friend who is going to pester the fuck out of me to attend a night out.

[Dogsitterwoes]

You are right, I need to stop giving her reasons she can counter.
She understands, she just wants me to do it. She tried guilt tripping me last time about why it would be too traumatic for them in kennels. Which is probably true, but not my problem, so I didn't feel guilty.
I'm just going to say no, that doesn't work for me, in future.
Thank you

[GrumpyPanda]

Probably about time to show some open exasperation. "We've been through this- why can't you respect my decision?"

[BMW6]

You could channel Phoebe from Friends on this one

"Well I could, but I don't want to"

[BirdyBoop]

Tell her you'll do it for the going rate, which for 3 dogs is about £90 a day.

[merlotlover]

Why would she need a dog sitter if she's there working from home
Some people are just too much, CF

[magratvonlipwig]

Tell her you do it for free to get a break in a new city. She doesnt qualify.

[Dogsitterwoes]

@merlotlover

Why would she need a dog sitter if she's there working from home
Some people are just too much, CF

She wants to go on holiday

[TomatoSandwiches]

YANBU

I wouldn't want someone that is disinterested ( completely within their right btw ) looking after any of my pets, she doesn't sound like a good pet owner tbh.

[IndiaDreamer]

Who has voted that YABU, you most certainly are not being unreasonable.

[WhereIsMumHiding3]

Yanbu
Your friend needs to stop harping on about it
You said no thanks and she's still moaning on trying to
Guilt you or wear down


I would say "no this again !
I said no, so please respect my decision. You'll need to make your own arrangements for your 3 dogs"

[StanleyBriggs]

Normally I am all for "don't justify, don't explain" but in this case I would be tempted to keep re-iterating that you do it for holiday accommodation so you are not interested in doing it in your local area, ever.

[IncompleteSenten]

Stop giving her reasons.

I'm not going to.
I don't want to.
Stop asking.

[Tontostitis]

I have 2 very well behaved chihuahuas and live by the sea and you sound lovely she doesn't what site is this can you pm me?

[Tontostitis]

And a hottub just saying......

[PrinceHaz]

I think I’d defriend her. She sounds unlikeable.

[WiddlinDiddlin]

'I do it for free when and ONLY when, it means I get to stay in a fancier house than mine, in an interesting/exotic/attractive location. Your house is not fancier, and you live five minutes from me, so there is no benefit to me in doing it."

But frankly, saying 'No, I don't want to' is probably more effective.

[TulipCat]

If she really persists, you may have to go with the ultra blunt "No sorry, I don't like your dogs".

[WhereIsMumHiding3]

People come on...
op can't say to her friend that she doesn't like her dogs or her house isn't fancy enough. No need to offend

It's ok to say " no thanks, please stop asking"

OP is she going in when you're out with her or on a phone call. Either way, I'd be inclined after saying no, to walk off somewhere until subject changes or end the call "well, I'm going to say bye if you're rehashing this again after I consistently said no"

[BellaJuno]

Another voice saying just tell her to button it, “I don’t want to” is a perfectly valid choice.

[2bazookas]

Easy peasy, just give the contact address of the dog-sit agency

Let her see how many takers she gets:-)