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Saw colleagues kissing

49 replies

fina22 · 11/02/2023 18:11

I saw my colleagues kissing and feel quite awkward about it. Both are women in their early 30s, and one of them has a male partner. A is management but isn’t B’s line manager. B is quite new and leans on A a lot. I sit next to A, and while B is out the office doing things during the day she will call A a lot. Never thought anything of it, thought B was just a bit needy. They call each other their work wife. Quite cliquey and they often go off for lunch together.

Yesterday I was sat in my car on lunch in the multi storey and A’s car parked in the row behind me. In my mirror I saw A and B having a proper snog in the car. They got out and walked off. Assume they didn’t recognise my car and/or didn’t see me. They didn’t act like anything was wrong once I came back.

DP thinks I should tell my manager, I think that’s an awful idea. What does one do in this situation?

OP posts:
Izearle · 11/02/2023 18:12

You ignore! It’s none of your business really. Just leave them to it, office romances happen.

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 11/02/2023 18:12

One just minds one own business

Stuffynosetime · 11/02/2023 18:12

Nothing, keep out of it. Why the fuck would you tell your manager. What’s wrong with your partner, do they think they are 12 and it’s like telling teacher, that would give me the ick

Slimjimtobe · 11/02/2023 18:13

Stay well out of it
sad for her husband though ! Very sneaky behaviour

Kingoftheroad · 11/02/2023 18:13

But out

Christmaspyjamas · 11/02/2023 18:13

Why on earth would you tell your manager??? What a weird idea. Ignore your husband. Just get on with your life it's not anything to do with you really.

DuplicateUserName · 11/02/2023 18:13

Why would you tell your manager?

You haven't explained that bit.

Getir · 11/02/2023 18:13

Why would you want to cause shit for them? Just keep your nose out.

JizzlordTheCat · 11/02/2023 18:13

What would the purpose of telling your manager be?

Purplecatshopaholic · 11/02/2023 18:14

She’s not her line manager so there’s no work issue. You ignore it. I feel sorry for the male partner but this is not your problem.

emmathedilemma · 11/02/2023 18:14

Nothing to do with anyone at work. Keep quiet.
I have a colleague who used to call me his work wife as his wife has the same name as me and he used to joke (nicely) that I nagged him almost as much, but that’s all there was to it!

Notimeforaname · 11/02/2023 18:14

Your husband is weird.

DuplicateUserName · 11/02/2023 18:14

And let's be honest, if you thought it was an 'awful idea', you wouldn't have started this thread because what would be the point?

lemmein · 11/02/2023 18:14

Notimeforaname · 11/02/2023 18:14

Your husband is weird.

This.

windyarse · 11/02/2023 18:14

What does one do in this situation?

As you are none of the important parties in this situation I don't think you need to do anything. Why would you?

BadNomad · 11/02/2023 18:15

Why do you have to do anything? They weren't in work. One isn't the other's manager. It has nothing to do with your manager.

Stuffynosetime · 11/02/2023 18:15

Yes why does your partner think you should run and tell your boss?

anyone else’s toes curling at the idea? How old is your partner? I’m assuming school age or not far past it`? Do they run to their parents and tell tales to them too?

Zeroorders · 11/02/2023 18:15

I don’t know why you’d tell your manager unless the manager is the husband you’ve mentioned!

Cosyblankets · 11/02/2023 18:15

Nothing to do with you
Nothing to do with your manager
Keep your nose out

GoldDuster · 11/02/2023 18:16

Tell your manager what?

And taking that a step further, what do you think your managers' view of you might be when you tell a tale of two colleagues kissing in a car, off work premises, in their own time? Who does that make you in this?

Ignore your husband.

Ponderingwindow · 11/02/2023 18:16

Unless you have the kind of job where you have to report issues that someone could theoretically be blackmailed about, just stay out of it.

MsVestibule · 11/02/2023 18:16

I would stay out of it. Office romances are very common, I don't know why you think you should report it. Even if I worked in an office where they were frowned upon, I still wouldn't say anything.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 11/02/2023 18:18

Honestly, what does your partner think your boss will do? 🤣

Stuffynosetime · 11/02/2023 18:18

GoldDuster · 11/02/2023 18:16

Tell your manager what?

And taking that a step further, what do you think your managers' view of you might be when you tell a tale of two colleagues kissing in a car, off work premises, in their own time? Who does that make you in this?

Ignore your husband.

If I was your manager and you said this to me, I’d be disgusted by you and your ridiculous child like gossiping and tell Tale behaviour . I’d be professional but I’d be side eying you with disgust.

you both need to grow up.

VladmirsPoutine · 11/02/2023 18:18

I really can't see what your AIBU is. If this doesn't affect you then move on.

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