Saw colleagues kissing

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I saw my colleagues kissing and feel quite awkward about it. Both are women in their early 30s, and one of them has a male partner. A is management but isn’t B’s line manager. B is quite new and leans on A a lot. I sit next to A, and while B is out the office doing things during the day she will call A a lot. Never thought anything of it, thought B was just a bit needy. They call each other their work wife. Quite cliquey and they often go off for lunch together.

Yesterday I was sat in my car on lunch in the multi storey and A’s car parked in the row behind me. In my mirror I saw A and B having a proper snog in the car. They got out and walked off. Assume they didn’t recognise my car and/or didn’t see me. They didn’t act like anything was wrong once I came back.

DP thinks I should tell my manager, I think that’s an awful idea. What does one do in this situation?

It is none of your business and what the hell is wrong with your partner?

Thanks everyone. My gut was to ignore, but DP has had a super weird reaction to this for some reason saying it’s disgusting and I need to report it etc so I doubted myself a bit. Wish I’d never brought it up with him at all.

I can't believe either of you would consider this and as much as you're blaming your husband, you were considering it enough to start a thread.

When my husband says something stupid, I roll my eyes and ignore.

Does he think it’s “disgusting” because it’s two women? Would he think it disgusting if it was a man and a woman?

Not your monkeys, not your circus

I'd just stay out of it and pretend I hadn't seen anything!

I'm trying to imagine how the conversation would go if you went to your manager and told him/her that you saw Joan and Anne kissing in a car. Somehow I don't think the manager would be impressed with you.

Why exactly does your DP think it's anything to do with your or your manager and what exactly does he think the manager is going to do with the information that two adults were seen in a car kissing?

What does one do in this situation?

One minds one's own business and keeps one's mouth shut.

Don't say anything, especially to anyone at work.

Saw colleagues kissing.

^^ No you didnt. Life is easier if you didnt. Do your best to make sure you dint see anything.

I wonder if he'd feel the same if A were a man.

Is this he’s homophobic? Is this where it’s going? I really hope not; I’d end a relationship for that shit.

I understand reporting two people snogging in some situations, but not ever in the situation of 2 adults who work together.

You can bet your manager would have the same reaction. It's easy to be the moral police until you actually have to do something - theres no way DH would speak up but hes happy to play the big man and say you should.

So why have you brought it up on here. Why are you not able to see his behaviour is so odd, why are you asking what you should do???

Sorry, that was in response to OP saying her reaction to her husband was wishing noone said anything.

If there are no issues that could lead to conflicts at work then I wouldn’t really care.

If A is your friend then I might say ‘I saw you kissing B - hope you are ok but if I saw you beware others might too.’

If she’s just a colleague then I’d leave it.

Both are women

DP has had a super weird reaction to this for some reason saying it’s disgusting

I think the reason you're looking for is his homophobia.

Is he homophobic or taking the moral highground as one is married?

Either or its of no concern to him or you. Forget you saw them, it's no use bringing it up to a manager, it'll come back and bite you on the arse.

Why would you report this?

Of course you should always report potential abuse of power relationships. If A has not abused her power she will be able to clear her name very easily.
Of course you tell A's partner. You would want to know if your DP was cheating particularly with a junior colleague at work.

Really?

Your husband sounds quite naive. These things happen all the time. What is "disgusting"? The fact that it's two women?
The only reason for reporting would be if one was under 16 or if having colleague relationships was specifically prohibited due to the type of job.

I would just ignore it! None of my business unless it will directly impact you/your job.

What do you think your managers going to do about it?