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Parent advertising their child on facebook for work.

76 replies

girlfriend44 · 10/02/2023 14:52

Amazed, came across a parent saying her preteen/nearly teen child was looking for work and did anyone know anything she could do to earn money as she didnt want her ending up on the streets?

why does her child need to work at that age and how can you just offer your childs services on FB to randoms?
Can you imagine all the people that could take advantage on this advert.

Poor child.

OP posts:
Echobelly · 10/02/2023 16:41

I think it's OK for parents to all for under 17s, after that age it should be the young person themselves really, although I've seen younger teens advertising themselves as well, but more usually on closed forums like a school community page etc, so they're addressing people who are more of a known quality.

BorsetshireBanality · 10/02/2023 16:43

Must have been the Facebook post I saw earlier today. I don’t think a pukka enterprise such as a country park that was suggested would employ someone under 15.

Calphurnia88 · 10/02/2023 16:44

I appear to be going against the grain here, but 12 strikes me as too young.

The comment about walking the streets is odd. How exactly did she word it?

ExistenceOptional · 10/02/2023 16:49

girlfriend44 · 10/02/2023 15:28

was she 12?
Nowadays you have to have insurance to walk dogs anyway and babysitting is a responsible job too.

I think its dangerous advertising on FB.

As a proper dog walker you need insurance. For someone paying a 12 year old to walk their dog they will not be expecting them to be insured.

starlingdarling · 10/02/2023 16:50

In Ireland it was pretty normal for young teens, even pre-teens to do babysitting for a couple of hours while parents went out.

When I moved here it was more unusual. My friend started a Saturday job in a cafe when she was 12. I started a Saturday job on the till at a pharmacy when I was 13. We wanted money for ourselves and weren't from wealthy families. Not sure about the rules now but it was legal at the time. None of our other friends had jobs until at least 16 (more middle class families).

mogsrus · 10/02/2023 16:53

What an utter ridiculous thing to do absolutely insane

TaRaDeBumDeAy · 10/02/2023 16:58

girlfriend44 · 10/02/2023 15:30

Mum posted on her own FB asking if people had any work her daughter could do?

she said she didnt want her walking the streets is there no middle ground then?

Youve either got to be working at 12 or walking the streets?

12 is perfectly fine for babysitting.

I think I got my first jobs around 12/13 by walking up and down the high street asking for work. I got a cash in hand saturday job in a clothes shop and a phone job in the indian takeaway.

WinterDeWinter · 10/02/2023 16:59

I saw the same thing on Nextdoor and - and I hated myself for it - I had a really awful feeling that it was possible they were actually trying to pimp out a child - that they knew that paedophiles would contact them either openly or promising 'a bit of gardening work'.

In the end all i could think of to do is to post a big warning to the mum - or 'mum'? - saying that this was a REALLY bad idea and would attract dangerous people looking to exploit and possibly hurt a child. I still can't decide whether I should have taken it further but I'm not sure who I could have reported to.

FineThings · 10/02/2023 17:00

girlfriend44 · 10/02/2023 15:01

Wheres the safeguarding?
Is 12 even responsible enough?
Is facebook the right place to ask?

DS had a paper round at 13, it’s only a year older. He sorted it all out himself, apart from me initially going into the shop with him - communicated with the shop owner by phone and text, told him when he was ill and going on holiday, got himself up and out at 6.30 every morning etc. He’s 15 now, just given it up.

Led9519 · 10/02/2023 17:17

Reugny · 10/02/2023 15:01

why does her child need to work at that age and how can you just offer your childs services on FB to randoms?

The child wants to earn their own money to pay for things. Not everyone is wealthy and children get more expensive as they get older.

Unfortunately for the poster of the message there are very limited jobs what a child under 16 let alone under 13 can legally do.

I wonder that children cost more when they get older when my toddler costs me £900 a month in childcare alone.

ExistenceOptional · 10/02/2023 17:25

The cost of teenagers is how long is a piece of string. They can cost you fairly little, but if you are well off and buying posh clothes, hobbies and electronics then they can cost you a small fortune.

CherLloydbyCherLloyd · 10/02/2023 17:31

girlfriend44 · 10/02/2023 16:29

as said, dogs can get attacked or attack other dogs, there can be problems also theft. I dont think dog walking is that easy.

Dog walking is easy and perfectly acceptable for a 12 year old. I used to walk neighbours dogs. For free!

greenspaces4peace · 10/02/2023 17:49

Probably a reflection of the neighborhood, but yes parents where I live will post; babysitting certificates, dog walking, watering plants etc.
we hired two 13 yr olds (close almost neighbors) to tend a farmers market booth for us. Their parents were very involved. They enjoyed it, were very well paid for 1 weekend work. All e-sales no cash purchases.

IhearyouClemFandango · 10/02/2023 17:53

If it is on her profile, she's tongue in cheek about the roaming the streets while seeing if anyone wants their car washing etc

EsmeSusanOgg · 10/02/2023 17:54

Paper round, lawn mowing, sweeping up clippings in a hairdressers... Sort of jobs young teens did in the 90s. I guess this is what she was asking about?

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 10/02/2023 18:00

girlfriend44 · 10/02/2023 16:29

as said, dogs can get attacked or attack other dogs, there can be problems also theft. I dont think dog walking is that easy.

Yes, I know - I do it for a living!

But there's a huge difference between an adult professional taking multiple dogs out at once and a 12yo taking the neighbours' terrier out round the block for a fiver.

They're not remotely comparable in terms of danger or risk.

DuplicateUserName · 10/02/2023 18:05

girlfriend44 · 10/02/2023 15:01

Wheres the safeguarding?
Is 12 even responsible enough?
Is facebook the right place to ask?

I was 12 in the early 1980s and worked on the till at my local general store until I turned 16.

Like kids of any age, some will be responsible and some won't.

GoodChat · 10/02/2023 19:43

EmilyGilmoresSass · 10/02/2023 16:07

I get annoyed anytime I see a parent asking for help finding jobs for kids 16+ in local businesses etc. If I was a business owner, I'd not be keen on employing a 16 year old who's mummy had to do their job hunting for them. And I don't think those parents are doing their kids any favours

Me too - or men whose girlfriends are asking for them!

Siameasy · 10/02/2023 19:52

Pretty normal round here. Sounds like she’s asking her friends for advice or a recommendation. I used to do things like water so and so down the road’s garden when they were away at that age. Youngsters’ parents round here ask on the local FB page if anyone wants things doing. One 13 year old set himself up washing cars.
Teens have anxiety these days partly because they’re babied too much.

Hellodarknessmyoldpal · 10/02/2023 20:03

But the mum will be able to decide what was thinks is suitable for her dd based on the replies she gets? she'll be under no obligation to send her round to the neighbourhood creep asking for a cheap back massage. She's probably trying to get her a few babysitting gigs or anyone who's looking for their grass cut from her own friend's list.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 10/02/2023 20:21

girlfriend44 · 10/02/2023 16:30

your own is different to others. Read my post about local dogwalker who was walking a dog and it got killed. It came back badly on the walker.

There’s a huge difference between a dog walker walking multiple dogs together multiple times a day and taking the dog next door (or their own dog) for a wander.

KnickerlessParsons · 11/02/2023 00:40

The days of Bob a Job are very much over.

I don't think so. We occasionally get kids either knocking on the door, or flyers through the letterbox from kids who want to earn a bit of pocket money.

HateEatingInTheDark · 11/02/2023 00:56

She asked on her own facebook?
So people she knows.
If a local fb friend done the same here,
I could think of afew jobs that a child could do for some pocket money,
For example, Wash the car or go to the local shop for me or pick up a parcel or take books back to library

Depends on time you have, and your health.

A child could clean out small animal cages for example

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 11/02/2023 00:58

The days of Bob a Job are very much over.

No-one has told the kids round here…

In fact, since their usual “proper” jobs of paper rounds/magazine delivery, Saturday shop staff etc have been taken up more and more by adults the kids have Gwen getting more creative with local jobs.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 11/02/2023 00:58

*have been getting

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