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Original poster

To not do food for party

371 replies

ttctimeforme · 06/02/2023 18:54

If you went to an party in the evening at a venue, around 7:30pm onwards.. would you expect food to be provided?

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Hapoydayz · 06/02/2023 18:54

Yes

FineThings · 06/02/2023 18:54

I would, yes, especially if I had travelled a way to get there

Ponoka7 · 06/02/2023 18:55

Yes, if you don't then it's a drinks party and you need to make that clear. Is it budget constraints?

NRCOA · 06/02/2023 18:55

Absolutely yes.

thehappyhaggis · 06/02/2023 18:55

Yeah, I would expect a buffet at about 8.30/9pm. I've never been to a party at a venue and there not be food. Even if it was in a house id expect food!

4plusthehound · 06/02/2023 18:55

I would expect a little something to naw on yes.

Be sure to put it in the invite that it is an after dinner event.

Oysterbabe · 06/02/2023 18:56

Yes. A party should always include food and that's peak dinner time.

HiccupHorrendousHaddock · 06/02/2023 18:56

Definitely, unless I'd been explicitly told it wasn't.

PaperFun · 06/02/2023 18:56

Yes. I could not host anything without food and drink!

Chocbuttonsandredwine · 06/02/2023 18:56

yes… unless you say “drinks at mine 7.30”

what lkind of party and where might make a slight difference.

Original poster
ttctimeforme · 06/02/2023 18:57

I was thinking of just doing some sweet food, cakes, doughnuts etc

Would that be sufficient?

It's not about budget it's because it's a surprise party it will be very difficult to arrange food and the venue doesn't offer it

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MaverickGooseGoose · 06/02/2023 18:57

Yes unless it was explicitly a drinks party

meetmeatmidnights · 06/02/2023 18:57

7.30 - yes, either a full meal or tonnes of nibbles / grazing boards / snacks.

Mumdiva99 · 06/02/2023 18:57

Yes. Otherwise it's just going out for drinks. If you are paying for the bar and don't want to pay for food, maybe just be clear that you are inviting people out for drinks. (And food is available to purchase....or start later when people have eaten).

Original poster
ttctimeforme · 06/02/2023 18:57

It is drinks too, there's a bar

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GoodChat · 06/02/2023 18:57

I think you need to do a proper buffet. Get a friend to help, or a caterer.

Merryoldgoat · 06/02/2023 18:58

I wouldn’t have any kind of party that didn’t have food, especially not at 7.30 which is a reasonable adult dinner time.

Lcb123 · 06/02/2023 18:58

I would expect it. Even cold buffet like cheese board / grazing table

MrsWidgerysLodger · 06/02/2023 18:58

Yes. I'd expect a buffet with a good mix of sweet/savory.

EmmaDilemma5 · 06/02/2023 18:58

7.30pm yes I'd expect a buffet. I think it would have to be from 8.30ish for me to accept there'll be no food.

Auldandknackered · 06/02/2023 18:59

Yes, but not donuts. That’s a kinda weird thing to expect people to eat at a party, is it a child’s party?

HostessTrolley · 06/02/2023 18:59

If it's tricky to do food, maybe book a pizza delivery about 8-30-9

WaddleAway · 06/02/2023 18:59

7.30pm is peak dinner time so yes, I’d expect a buffet at the very least.

TheDead · 06/02/2023 18:59

Is it a free bar?
I would 100% expect food of some sort & would not be at all interested in doughnuts at that hour.
Get some pizzas delivered?

abyssofwoah · 06/02/2023 18:59

Yes definitely, if it’s a proper party rather than just inviting people out for drinks at a bar. Why will it be difficult to get food in?