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Posting holiday photos on social media

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PaulHeymanHairline · 06/02/2023 18:05

We're going on holiday for half term and for the first time I'm sort of questioning whether I want to post any photos online. My account is set to private and I'm pretty picky about who i allow access to (not that they're clamouring at the doors or I'm very exciting) My concern isn't really about that but more about if it's a bit twattish in 2023?
We're all aware of the problem of social media bring that it is not a true reflection of life. They don't show the tantrums, the awkward silence with our other half's, the unexpected way that the photogenic food has ruined our budget for the week, the way the kids completely did not appreciate the trip and moaned that they missed nerf gun day at holiday club. ...
It wouldn't be so bad if all my friends were richer than me but I have a mix of frothed who are completely at the mercy of the state, or have lost their jobs or have their rent increased massively. That's not to mention those friends with MH problems who tell me that they feel shitter about themselves and their situation after going on social media:
I wonder if in a few years holiday snaps will become the equivalent of the pics pf big piles of presents? Tacky and a bit braggy?

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PitYerTapOan · 07/02/2023 00:40

I'm another one who loves seeing holiday snaps OP. Put them on. It's nice seeing my friends and their families being happy and looking at different places takes me out of myself a bit. Have a lovely time.

MermaidMummy06 · 07/02/2023 00:59

A few pics are lovely. But I find it odd that people post DURING their holiday, or think I want to see 50 photos a day, or those ridiculous FB things with planes showing departure and destination.

I post a few when we get back but when I'm on holiday I'm doing what holidays are for - not thinking about the real word back home!

NumberTheory · 07/02/2023 05:08

I love seeing friends’ holiday photos. Not millions of them every day, but a few at the beginning or end and the odd extra special thing is lovely.

alwayscrashinginthesamecar1 · 07/02/2023 05:25

5128gap · 06/02/2023 21:12

Well if you're thinking of posting pictures of yourselves drinking prosecco in an outdoor hot tub, or all dressed up grinning in your holiday outfits, or of your dinner, then probably no one does want to see that, and probably never did. Pictures of beautiful scenery, landmarks or wildlife though are interesting to see.

Not necesssarily. I live on the other side of the world from a lot of family and friends who want to see photos of us, not the scenery.

TentCampByTheHippoRiver · 07/02/2023 05:28

I like seeing other people's holiday & travel photos, especially if is a place that I have not been to.

garlictwist · 07/02/2023 06:09

I am perhaps the wrong person to answer this as I have never posted a photo on social media in my life, but isn't that what social media is for - showing off? (and I mean this in a nice way). I think it's fine to post photos of your holiday if you want, but maybe just a few rather than every single moment.

BMrs · 07/02/2023 06:43

I'd just put one or two on. That's not bratty at all. Although my last holiday I didn't put any on at all as was just me and DH and we had so much fun I only took one pic the whole time.

I have show off posts but a couple of lovely pics I think people will enjoy seeing. I have a friend away at the minute and have enjoyed seeing theirs.

FredaFox · 07/02/2023 06:50

I have zero interest in other peoples holiday snaps, i wouldn't bother looking at them on Facebook though I came off that ages ago

I feign polite interest when forced to look at a work colleagues pics on her phone after every holiday which are usually 50 selfies with her husband, all the same pic but a different outfit

youshouldnthaveasked · 07/02/2023 06:53

I don’t think I’ve ever looked through every photo in a holiday dump.

If someone has posted 1 photo a day I think that’s nice

Applesandcarrots · 07/02/2023 07:04

SUBisYodrethwhenLarping · 07/02/2023 00:24

One very boring reason I would be unsure about sharing holiday photos while away is insurance on your house (and maybe your car)

As you are advertising that you are away from home and might get yourself into trouble with insurance claims if you needed them

If that is an issue for you post them in the taxi back to your home after landing

If not, then post a few photos of fantastic views etc or something interesting

Have a fabulous holiday 🙂🙂🙂🙂

You won't especially if you have sm as it should be. If your mates rob you, you have another problem!

Sunbird24 · 07/02/2023 07:16

I don’t go on holiday very often, so when I do I try and make it something really special. I went on a safari many years ago (on my own, with one of these small groups) so took about a thousand photos of the wildlife and scenery. Got it down to 99 that I put on FB when I got back - in a single album rather than that drip feed some people have mentioned! I know some of my friends will never get to have that experience, but none of them are the kind of people who would begrudge me it. I can’t carry a pregnancy to term but I absolutely wouldn’t expect any of my friends to not post pictures of their children!

Im going on another big trip this summer, and several people have already asked about seeing the pics when I get back. If you’re not generally a braggy person, it’s unlikely you’re posting the photos to show off. You’re allowed to share the bits of your life that you enjoy with the people who care about you - don’t overthink it…

LolaSmiles · 07/02/2023 07:17

I like seeing holiday photos on social media.

The regular updates most days and hundreds of photos are overkill to me, same for twee making memories sorts of posts.

Cazziebo · 07/02/2023 07:19

Showing vacation pics is nothing new. It has been something shared socially for decades before social media was a thing.

This! Many an excruciating evening nibbling stale Ritz crackers watching the neighbour's slideshow of Benidorm.

I love Facebook for keeping me in touch with friends and family. It makes me happy to see their holiday pictures and photos of their children as they grow. I don't see much "bragging".

Rewis · 07/02/2023 07:29

I usually make an instagram post when I'm back that has several pics in the one post. Easy to skip ot easy to swipe to see the others. Also maybe a bit safer. I do think it's nice to consider others when you're posting but i don't think a holiday is something to sensor. However, please on few pics. I have a friend who posts on Instagram story 10 pictures from one museum.

madamepresident · 07/02/2023 07:30

I post mine simply because it's nice when they come up on my memories page

user1494050295 · 07/02/2023 07:37

I know someone who adds daily to their holiday pics on fb. And I am talking hundreds. Completely naff. Chose a handful. And post once you get home

sunflowerdaisyrose · 07/02/2023 07:38

I like seeing them! Well, a few of them anyway. It doesn't bother me if people post 50 a day, but I don't look at them.

BurglarAndSwag · 07/02/2023 07:46

R0BERTA · 06/02/2023 20:38

I would never post any holiday photos until I got back, because otherwise you're announcing to the world, that the house is empty.

For the same reason, I would never announce that I'm going on holiday.

Don't tell them that (sigh).

JamSandle · 07/02/2023 07:47

I dont really look at other people's but I do post mine. I wouldn't overthink it. Post what you like. People will look or not look depending on their interest. I know if my mental health is low I won't go on social media.

Forever42 · 07/02/2023 07:50

Looking at other people's holiday photos has always been boring. At least on Facebook you can scroll by instead of having to smile politely as they show you in person.

phoenixrosehere · 07/02/2023 07:51

user1494050295 · 07/02/2023 07:37

I know someone who adds daily to their holiday pics on fb. And I am talking hundreds. Completely naff. Chose a handful. And post once you get home

You could silence them for 30 days or if it is that bothersome unfollow them, if you don’t want to unfriend them.

WimpoleHat · 07/02/2023 07:56

but isn't that what social media is for - showing off?

I completely agree with this. And, outside immediate family and most immediate circle, nobody really cares where you’ve been or what you’ve done. So people struggling will think “braggy cow showing off” and people richer than you will think “God, I’m glad the highlight of my year isn’t a fortnight there” (or whatever). Because human nature. On the basis of opinions on this thread, which shows that people like to see photos to give them travel ideas, a few landscape type shots are probably your best bet if you want to do it!

BitOutOfPractice · 07/02/2023 07:58

SUBisYodrethwhenLarping · 07/02/2023 00:33

I realise if you have your settings to private your friends causing this is unlikely

However, insurance companies want to wriggle out of paying a claim if they can. So might use SM photos and posts as an excuse

This is a myth. It’s never happened.

plus my home isn’t empty when I’m away.

I think there’s sharing and over sharing. First is great. Second, not so much.

berksandbeyond · 07/02/2023 08:24

I love seeing holiday photos and I post mine too. Not all day every day, but maybe a pic every couple of days and then put them in an album at the end?

The way I see it is that any pics on social media could be seen as bragging -

nice restaurant meal? Some people can’t afford food and could be visiting food banks

kids dance show? Some people will be struggling with infertility. Mothers and Father’s Day similar!

Valentines day? Some people will have just had a break up or divorce or be unhappily single

theoldcatsmells · 07/02/2023 08:27

It's what social media is for, it's your social media. We don't live in a communist nation, and people have different levels of wealth. That's competition and capitalism for you, which I'm okay with. If you're not you should move to a communist country. Some people see the wealth of others as motivation instead of a source for depression, and arguably that aids social mobility.

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