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Posting holiday photos on social media

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PaulHeymanHairline · 06/02/2023 18:05

We're going on holiday for half term and for the first time I'm sort of questioning whether I want to post any photos online. My account is set to private and I'm pretty picky about who i allow access to (not that they're clamouring at the doors or I'm very exciting) My concern isn't really about that but more about if it's a bit twattish in 2023?
We're all aware of the problem of social media bring that it is not a true reflection of life. They don't show the tantrums, the awkward silence with our other half's, the unexpected way that the photogenic food has ruined our budget for the week, the way the kids completely did not appreciate the trip and moaned that they missed nerf gun day at holiday club. ...
It wouldn't be so bad if all my friends were richer than me but I have a mix of frothed who are completely at the mercy of the state, or have lost their jobs or have their rent increased massively. That's not to mention those friends with MH problems who tell me that they feel shitter about themselves and their situation after going on social media:
I wonder if in a few years holiday snaps will become the equivalent of the pics pf big piles of presents? Tacky and a bit braggy?

OP posts:
Zipps · 06/02/2023 20:40

I love seeing other people's holiday photos on Facebook. It also gives us ideas for future destinations. I'm not a holiday snob either so I'm as happy to look at Skeggy pics just as much as the Seychelles.
If people have issues they can scroll past.

TheChosenTwo · 06/02/2023 20:40

I use Instagram rather than Facebook, I like seeing a couple of photos of holidays but like with anything (your new car, fancy handbag, kids, everything really!) after about 3 I’m a bit bored and just scroll on. Not that I’m not interested in seeing peoples kids or new car etc but if it’s 16 posts in a row of it I just skip!
post what you want, don’t post what you don’t want, I doubt anyone will be especially upset if you don’t post any photos!

AffIt · 06/02/2023 20:45

I love seeing people's holiday pics - but, you know, two or three at a time, I'm not looking at 100+ incredibly similar photos taken from a slightly different angle in one post.

LlynTegid · 06/02/2023 20:47

I don't, and even if I did would not do so until I had returned. Don't know who would then find out the house was empty when I was away if I did whilst there.

Applesandcarrots · 06/02/2023 21:04

R0BERTA · 06/02/2023 20:38

I would never post any holiday photos until I got back, because otherwise you're announcing to the world, that the house is empty.

For the same reason, I would never announce that I'm going on holiday.

This is why having private settings on sm are always good idea.
No one else can see shite except people you want to see it.

Freeme31 · 06/02/2023 21:10

I love seeing my friends photo on FB i am genuinely happy for them regardless of my situation

5128gap · 06/02/2023 21:12

Well if you're thinking of posting pictures of yourselves drinking prosecco in an outdoor hot tub, or all dressed up grinning in your holiday outfits, or of your dinner, then probably no one does want to see that, and probably never did. Pictures of beautiful scenery, landmarks or wildlife though are interesting to see.

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 06/02/2023 21:27

R0BERTA · 06/02/2023 20:38

I would never post any holiday photos until I got back, because otherwise you're announcing to the world, that the house is empty.

For the same reason, I would never announce that I'm going on holiday.

Aaaaaand… BINGO!!

You're not announcing anything “to the world” unless you have a completely open profile. If you set your privacy settings properly, only your friends can see what you post - and even then, surely not everyone on your friend list has your address? Anyone who knows me well enough to know my address isn’t going to rob me.

It sounds like you need better privacy settings - or better friends.

Chittering · 06/02/2023 22:14

I love looking at holiday pictures

plumduck · 06/02/2023 22:16

Don't do it then.

Constellar · 06/02/2023 22:22

I think there is a way to do it sensitively

I post pics of things that interest me with a bit of commentary. So eg a pic of a bee or a bird or something in its larger surrounds and say something about it. Or a pic of an area and what we found interesting or shit about it. I never post pics of the DC.

Had lots of feedback saying ppl find the posts interesting and enjoyable. Make it real, good and bad, humour where appropriate and above all, interesting.

JustKeepSlimming · 06/02/2023 22:29

AffIt · 06/02/2023 20:45

I love seeing people's holiday pics - but, you know, two or three at a time, I'm not looking at 100+ incredibly similar photos taken from a slightly different angle in one post.

I truly don't understand people who do this all my SILs. 10 virtually identical photos?! Then 10 more from slightly further along the path?! Why do they think anyone is interested? Do they think they'll want to look back on them themselves in years to come?

Dogsandchocolaterule · 06/02/2023 22:30

I think it's braggy show offy to post holiday pics.

I go on quite a few holidays but don't post anything, for various reasons, I have friends that can't afford holidays and I don't want them to feel bad, I don't like the fake ness of it 'here we are such a happy family'. It's like you said OP you don't take a picture of your DC when they are moaning about something or when your DH forgot to put sunscreen on and is now moaning he got burnt.

It's a fake highlight reel and doesn't sit right with me.

overkeen · 06/02/2023 22:32

I'm with the majority. I love seeing other people's pictures - partly to live vicariously through them, and partly to get holiday destination ideas.

We don't live near our families any more, so it's also a lovely way to share pictures of our changing family with friends and family who we don't see as often.

I have reduced the amount of pictures I've posted in the last couple of years for the reasons you mentioned, but on the whole, I intend on posting about my next jolly - whenever that may be!

maddy68 · 06/02/2023 22:34

As long as the you have only friends on there which presumably know your u are on holiday anyway then go for it

UsingChangeofName · 06/02/2023 22:43

Another who is genuinely pleased to see friends' enjoying a nice holiday.

If any of my facebook friends don't feel the same, they are very welcome to unfriend me.

If you actually think none of your friends on Facebook will be pleased to see you having a lovely holiday, then I think you have an issue with who you are choosing to have as your friends.
I am only friends with people I like, so naturally I am pleased when they are doing something nice.

I would never post any holiday photos until I got back, because otherwise you're announcing to the world, that the house is empty.

Well, hardly the world, if you have your settings so that only your friends can see, but either way, my house isn't empty when I go on holiday.

LakeTiticaca · 06/02/2023 23:06

Reminds me of an ex friend of mine who had 3 kids. Used to take them to pontins for a week (before camera phones and SM) She used to bring round her holiday snaps for me to look at. 4 or 5 film rolls of which 75% were pics her kids had taken. So I had to smile politely while looking at blurred pictures of a hand, a foot, a nose, it was excruciating and I was so relieved when she fell out with me 🤣🤣

Applesandcarrots · 06/02/2023 23:24

It's a fake highlight reel

It's just a highlight reel. Things are allowed not always be about shit. Doesn't mean it's fake unless they absolutely fake the happy moment.

Wedding pics for example. You don't have in an album the 7 crying kids during ceremony or ehatnot. You have the happy pics. Doesn't mean it's fake even though you were stressed before, cake was late and caterers forgot the posh cheese and you had blisters midway through the night.

gemloving · 06/02/2023 23:37

Maybe I'm oldschool but I love seeing my friends holiday picutures!

RockingMyFiftiesNot · 06/02/2023 23:40

gemloving · 06/02/2023 23:37

Maybe I'm oldschool but I love seeing my friends holiday picutures!

Ditto and I've picked up lots of holiday ideas from seeing friends' photos.

blubberyboo · 06/02/2023 23:40

I love seeing holidays pics, it gives me ideas for holidays.

I can’t always afford some of the big ticket ones but I’m not sitting them wallowing. I also can’t afford a car like Johnnys or the fancy new house someone has moved into. But if people didn’t post this stuff then all we would have is endless “motivational” memes and people posting cryptic gripes about “some people think”

I also love it when my own holiday memories pop up from 2009. I see it like a digital photograph album

Barleysugar86 · 07/02/2023 00:14

Another vote for I'd love to see them (keep less than twenty). We aren't going away this year as we can't afford it, but I do get some nice ideas, and sometimes people go somewhere I've been before and make me feel nostalgic. I certainly wouldn't mind.

SUBisYodrethwhenLarping · 07/02/2023 00:24

One very boring reason I would be unsure about sharing holiday photos while away is insurance on your house (and maybe your car)

As you are advertising that you are away from home and might get yourself into trouble with insurance claims if you needed them

If that is an issue for you post them in the taxi back to your home after landing

If not, then post a few photos of fantastic views etc or something interesting

Have a fabulous holiday 🙂🙂🙂🙂

SUBisYodrethwhenLarping · 07/02/2023 00:33

I realise if you have your settings to private your friends causing this is unlikely

However, insurance companies want to wriggle out of paying a claim if they can. So might use SM photos and posts as an excuse

sorcerersapprentice · 07/02/2023 00:34

I'm glad you've all said this. I share my holiday pics. I don't live in the area I grew up in and I have friends and family all over the world, so it's a good way to keep in touch. Love it when someone says 'I was there too 20 years ago ' or similar

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