To have told DH is neglecting DD.

[Vivi00]

This is a vent : I've been at work today 12.5 hour shift , I don't work every weekend but sometimes. I left home at 6:45 and returned at 20.30. DD is 9 , first off the house was a complete shit tip. DH has taken her out for a meal and was sat playing videogames. I came home DD had not done her maths and English homework so I helped her. Her uniform wasn't sorted and swimming stuff for tomorrow. He hasn't put the bins out or cleaned the cats bowl! These are jobs that we have always done on Sundays.. To top it off he hadn't prompted her to do peak flow as she's being assessed for asthma. The supermarket delivery came and I ended up putting most of it away and preparing her packed lunch for tomorrow.

I basically hit the roof and told him he's neglecting her , she's not a baby just basic prompting is all that's needed. He said he had sorted out the garden and I said what's the fucking priority the garden or your child. He then said what's there to be stressed about , you are just being moody. I feel like I need to think for everyone even after a really long day.

Do I need to write a fucking list of what needs to be done? Who can be that stupid 😡😡

You know very well that in a sentence that is

AIBU To have told DH is neglecting DD?

DH (a parent) neglecting DD (a child)

That only one definition applies here for neglect, and that the question was : is a parent neglecting a child? is implicitly referring to the neglect of a child, or child neglect.

It doesn’t matter what she meant, because she exaggerated in anger while frustrated. Would you so easily dismiss your partner accusing you of child neglect?

I don’t think this qualifies as neglect when it comes to parenting.

But he is clearly a rubbish partner to you. It seems as though you are unwilling or afraid to say why this behaviour isn’t good enough for you, and you’re using your DD as the excuse to be angry with him.

You’re allowed to be angry with him, and it would be totally reasonable to own that.