Would you give en-suite to a toddler or keep it for guests ?

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4 bed house with 3 bathrooms upstairs. 2 en-suite and family bathroom. 1 en-suite is the master bedroom.

Would you give a 2 year old an en-suite now ? Or keep that room for guests and perhaps move the 2 year old into the en-suite when older ?

We have a lot of guests staying over.

Due to the bizarrities of Military Housing, my DDs had sinks actually in their bedrooms (not a separate bathroom, with a door that could be locked or closed) for many years. No problems.

Just use the rooms in the way that makes sense. Its easy to stop access to a bathroom.

Do you not ever allow your children to access the family bathroom without your supervision during the night? Not sure how it’s that different?

Legit never thought parents who give their child an en-suite bedroom would be getting ripped apart on mumsnet but there we have it 😂 forget abuse, allowing your child access to a bathroom is the obviously the worst…

Our boys have baby gates on their en-suite doors and we close the doors at night.
DD has unsupervised access to hers; she’s nearly 10.
When the baby is mobile, her en-suite door will also have a baby gate on.
They have don’t unsupervised access as toddlers.

Your dc should have which ever of the bedrooms is bigger / has better storage. Years ago I read on here on a thread about guest rooms and who got which room etc that you should prioritise the people who live in the house over those who chose to visit it.

so a child won’t care if they have to cross the landing to get to a bathroom, but should have the otherwise best room - once you take out the bathroom. If otherwise the rooms are equal, I think I’d still give the dc the one with the en-suite.

Guests.

I might swap the rooms when dc is older but only if I only planned to have one, as otherwise it seems a bit unfair.

It’ll be really handy when you have guests to have them able to use a bathroom without leaving their room.

Not as a toddler at 2 years old. They were still in nappies anyway at night and were not going to the family bathroom alone.

Do you not think it’s a little dramatic to be ‘aghast’ that someone would allow their child access to their own bathroom, when for most families in ordinary houses, family bathrooms are right next to the children’s bedrooms anyway? Struggling to understand the hysteria tbh. I would rather my child has the ‘best’ bedroom I can give her rather than have it sitting empty for the guests we never have.

Okay sorry if you think I am being hysterical. I just think it is a clear safeguarding issue. Others disagree, fine. Do what you think best.

I'd go with guests for now with a view to kid getting it when they're a teen or so.

I'm assuming that the ensuites have showers and the family bathroom has a bath. If that's the case use the non-ensuite room for the toddler and save the ensuite for guests. My kids weren't independently showering till about age 8, my dd still needs help doing her hair and they both like a bath, as do I. If you use the ensuite for the toddler but also plan to still use the main bathroom that means you have 3 bathrooms to keep clean. If you use the main bathroom the ensuite stays clean.

A clear safeguarding issue. Yeah you’ve really pissed me off now, seriously wise up.

Guests - we had a similar set up & the spare room with en-suite was for guests, DH & DS shared the family bathroom & I had the en-suite to myself . Now we are fortunate enough to have a five bedroom house with three bathrooms (one en-suite) so we have a bathroom each ...

I was thinking the same.

The toddler is going to require parental assistance for some time yet, and the family bathroom would give more space.

So with regular guests, I'd keep the 2nd en-suite for guest right now.

It depends, does the en-suite have a bath or shower? Does the toddler have a bath or shower usually? What about the main bathroom? How often do you have guests occupying both guest rooms? Are you likely to have another child?

Even if never have guests I wouldn't give it to the toddler. Unsupervised access to a bath is almost as risky as an ungated pool. They could drown and you wouldn't know. I would also refuse to clean the ensuite!

My 2 year old has an en suite, never occurred to me it was a safety hazard tbh.

He always has his bedroom door left open, and the en-suite door is next to the door so it’s the same as taking 2 steps out and into hallway bathroom.

Its tiny, and no bath. The shower pressure is crap ( it’s all old), so we don’t use shower either so the shower door stays shut and he’s never opened it.

But the toilet and sink we use all the time. 0-2 in reusable nappies so handy to change butt in bedroom then flush waste and store dirty nappy’s in the bathroom ready to wash. Now he uses the toilet and he always uses that one on waking and before bed. Keeps his toothbrush etc in there also. So there’s only toddler friendly toothpaste and hand soap in there. Toilet roll stays fine on roll, and spare up high.

I'd be more worried about when they're a bit older and leave the tap running, make spells sign their friends on play dates etc