To think this is a 'spoilt' attitude ?

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I dropped out of an A level course completely at 17 then took 2 jobs - 1 in an office and one in a sports centre. When I was 18 I decided to go back to college - do A Levels but different subjects. So I started A levels in the September before I turned 19 rather than the Sept before I turned 17 iyswim.
A week before I was due to start my A level course the A level results came out for what would have been my year group. My mum went to church the Sunday post A level results - a church where some of my school friends went - and came back - I'd stayed at home - saying

" in the church service congratulations for A level passes were announced - how do you think I felt that you dropped out of school.

This made me feel shit I mean FFS! I was about to re-enter higher education but tbh even if not - a parent can't take for granted their child will go A levels - you can't keep getting at your child for this ! Y

Thing is - I learnt at 8 that you can't complain about things like this - you've just got to get on with it. My mum was 60 when she said this and - I learnt at 8 not to complain about this !
Constantly asking for a for a sibling was completely different? You're conflating two things that have no relevance to each other.

And frankly, an 8 year old still demanding their mother has another baby because they want her to is the very definition of a spoiled brat.

Sounds like op's mum was 50 when she was still mithering on for a sibling.

Did you resit your a levels or do you some how feel this comment held you back?

I'll be honest, based on the examples you've given you seem to be looking for evidence of abuse which is a bit odd.

No one has an entirely perfect childhood/teenage years without parents or children saying things they might regret. It's just life. Your mum is as entitled to her frustrations as you are.

Would you like her to be keeping a list of her grievances because I'd be surprised if you come out with a halo.

Is something else going on here?

@Johnnysgirl yes that's true so more likely that her DM had her very late so there was no time to have more children even if she wanted them. Wouldn't have come as a surprise to her DM that having started her family so late she was unlikely to have more than one. However, an 8 year old wouldn't have the knowledge of human reproductive biology to know how unlikely it was that her DM couldn't have any more, and her DM as an adult should have allowed for that.

In my case I had only just found out about my premature menopause when DD started her campaign for a little sister and as you can imagine it came as a shock. Still didn't take it out on DD though.

Thanks to everyone who's responded - most of the posts have been supportive - I appreciate it. To the poster - sorry had quick look couldn't find the post - who asked did I resit - no I didn't resist as such - did a brand new A level course

@OnGoldenPond - thanks - my mother's comments affected my mood and confidence and your response really means a lot to me

You say there are worse examples of abuse but neither of these examples are abusive in the first place. I wonder how your mother views your relationship