I wanted to go to the rocky horror show with a friend and DH has gone crazy

[bellavi]

My best friend (a gay man, married to his husband for 10 years, not that it should matter but just to give context) has invited me to go and see the rocky horror show at the theatre.

My DH has just went absolutely crazy, accusing me of wanting to dress like a "slut" and go to after parties.

I had actually invited him (dh) but he said he didn't want to go.

Aibu to think this is a massive overreaction?

My mum thinks I should be grateful for having such a nice DH. He wouldn't dare speak to me like this in front of anyone else though.

Street angel, house devil. Because he knows his behaviour is unacceptable.

Tell your mother the unvarnished truth about your 'nice DH'. You're only 35, free yourself. He's just a man, he's not your master and ruler.

I'm going to see the Rocky soon with my mum. She's 79 and this will be the fourth time she's seen it. Your husband is weird and unreasonable.

*rocky horror show

My mum thinks I should be grateful for having such a nice DH. He wouldn't dare speak to me like this in front of anyone else though.
From your mum's point of view though, you say yourself that he wouldn't dare say anything in front of anyone else, so how would she know?
If he's presentng as lovely to everyone else and saving his jealous emotional abuse bullshit for you, he knows it's wrong - and you should too.
Don't put up with it

Please listen to those who have been through abusive controlling relationships, which sadly it seems your in.

Even if you did want to dress up for the show and and go to a party with your friend after, that still wouldn’t excuse the behaviour. It’s just clothes for the theme of the show.

Theres some people on here who can give some advice on what to do, it’s good your questioning this but it’s horrid your stuck. It’s not too late to get out but will be hard. It’s common for people outside to look in and think the relationship is perfect and that your lucky, that doesn’t mean you are. You deserve so much more

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Time to get out of there!

OP you are in a dreadful, horrendous relationship. I have no experience of this but I am absolutely so saddened by your post.
You are worth more, you are more, please look after yourself. Xx

I left an abusive relationship after 30 years.

Don't waste your time like I did. Time to move on.

Well he sounds like a wanker.

Remember that no man owns you whether or not you are married. You are a free spirit and dont need his permission for anything you do.