How would you feel about this?

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If you were with a man who says he only wants daughters?

I wouldn't feel anything.
It's no different to a woman who only wants boys.
DH always wanted a girl, it never bothered me why would it?

Well it's the man who contributes the x or y chromosome so he's only got himself to blame if he has only sons.
You should want a healthy baby and love what you're given.

I'd want to know why he doesn't want boys? Just like if a woman just wanted boys, I would ask too. Usually when women just want girls or just boys, they have a justified reason. What's his

What is his reason why?

@hiyaqwerty yeah I agree I'd question a woman who said the same thing

He said because he's not a "man's man" and wouldn't know how to be with a boy

I wouldn’t be happy. No one should be having children if they’re so het up by stupid gender stereotypes they have such a strong preference on the genitals of an infant.

Does he think a boy wouldn’t enjoy cooking and dolls and no one has a daughter who enjoys competitive sport or climbing trees?

Stupid, short sighted, pathetic.

I agree

Nothing. I would prefer a girl too 🤷🏻‍♀️

I get you can have preferences, but to say you ONLY want one gender of child no matter how many children you have just baffles me

I couldn’t be with a man like that. It sounds like he believes in gender stereotypes, which is weird as he’s not a ‘mans man’. 🙄 I’d think he was a total dickhead.

It wouldn't bother me. I wanted a girl as, like your DH, I thought I couldn't relate to boys well..
I have a boy, he is awesome, and if I had another child I would hope for anothor boy as now I think I would struggle with a girl!
It's just a fear of the unknown I think..

I would wonder why and then ask before jumping to any conclusions

I wouldn’t really want to date someone who thought you had to be different with boys. Just be a parent to your kid, whatever they need. If he isn’t a ‘man’s man’ why does he think his sons would automatically conform to a masculine stereotype? He sounds like the male equivalent of a Pick Me Girl tbh.

Well any future son may not be a "man's man" and obviously as well, any daughter may love things that in the past have been stereotypical "boys stuff"
Some speople may have a preference but to say you ONLY want one sex is really off I think and a bit worrying.

I wouldn't have kids with someone who only wanted one sex. What happens if the first child is a boy?

Would he want to know the sex and insist on a termination if the wrong sex?

Yes exactly, does that mean he wouldn't love a son as much as a daughter.. I just don't get it

Ironic as that would probably make him a great father! It's ok to think these things, but quite dumb since you actually have no control over it

I'd find it weird and quite off-putting. It's not like you have a choice. It's normal to perhaps have a slight preference in your mind but I think that goes away once the baby is born. I'm sure my DH would have been a little disappointed if we'd had a second girl, but only for about 5 seconds!

My husband wanted a girl, and it was entirely related to feeling like he wasn't masculine enough and he was bullied at school for it. He was worried he would create the same experience for a son.

Well, we have one boy and another on the way :) he absolutely adores our son, and I know he will our second, but unfortunately he has shown a bit of a tendency to stereotypes - getting uncomfortable about our son wearing pink or liking unicorns. Fortunately I just ignore it and he comes round to it soon enough. It's all related to his own anxiety, and I'm just hoping I can do enough to counter it in the long term.

I’d think he wouldn’t be a good father and I wouldn’t want to have children with him. If we had only boys, would he be distant with them? Would he keep rabbiting on about how he wished we had daughters? Would our sons feel his disappointment in them? Would he be able to cope with the family he has, or would he want to leave?
When you decide to have children, you have to want whatever you’ll get.

I’d think he was a bit thick, frankly. It’s one area where choice generally doesn’t come into it.

I'd question his understanding of biology. It's not something you can really control.

I'd also probably not have children with him if he's likely to be a dick about a boy. But I think anyone with that strong a preference shouldn't have children, you are either prepared to accept your child as they are or you aren't.

My dh said he would like a dd when I was pregnant with our second because we already had a dd and he felt like it was 'known' territory but not overly bothered either way. Dc2 was a boy and dh was immediately besotted with him.

I mean maybe if he had a boy he'd be besotted too who knows but the comment is a little off putting I can't lie

More than offputting.

@PutItInTheFuckingBasket I would have assumed this.

Total anxiety around being a boy the first time around and then having to experience it again and letting his son down this time. Not being able to kick a football or all the other dads being better than him. Not fully comprehending that stereotypes are just that. Bloody patriarchy.