How would you feel about this?

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If you were with a man who says he only wants daughters?

I've got three gorgeous, loving boys, but part of me would like a girl too - no real reason, I just would. If I go on to have another boy, I'll be just as besotted with him as I am with my three.

Anyone who rigidly sticks to sex preference would ring alarm bells, tbh. DS1's violent bio father only wanted girls, and was utterly disgusted when it turned out we were having a boy. He claimed it couldn't be his baby 🙄🙄

As a PP said, the sperm dictates the sex. Your DP needs to get a grip.

Yep, bloody patriarchy. The irony is that before we had kids / when I was pregnant first time he said one of the reasons he'd be excited about raising a girl would be to encourage STEM and to be a strong woman, but he doesn't seem to see (unless I point out the bloody obvious) that it needs to work both ways 🙄

Interestingly his brother also feels the same and would prefer to have a girl. I do feel sorry for them having grown up like that, I was lucky that my mum was already smashing stereotypes for me when I was growing up, and my brother (who I'd say is also not "typically masculine") has no such hang ups.

Sorry, that was in response to @Sweetmotherofallthatisholyabov

I agree it’s probably anxiety around masculinity. I know my DP was hoping for a girl for this reason. He has never felt that typical macho/masculinity/male culture is something he can or wants to replicate.

Thankfully a good friend (similar guy, also new dad to a boy) pointed out that this makes him brilliantly placed to raise a boy who is not under pressure to conform to those damaging stereotypes.

We are very excited to welcome our son in a few weeks.

I’d think he had hang ups that I wouldn’t want to inflict on to a child, as they will be the person to suffer because of his feelings.

yep, think that about a woman who says this too. It’s short sighted, closed minded and non reflective.