to split the cost three-ways

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DH and I are going on holiday with a single friend. We're staying in a 2-bed apartment at £3000 and we're splitting it three ways, £1000 each. I told another friend and she was shocked and thought it should be split per room, so 1500 per room.

AIBU here? Is it not the most obvious split 3 ways? I would feel weird asking her to pay more just because she doesn't have a partner to split costs with.
For the record, i don't intend to try and change the split, just curious what others would have done in this 'throuple' situation?

I voted yabu because I'd have thought you pay per room, not per person, like in a hotel.

But I think it's very nice of you to split it three ways and maybe the inconvenience of having to share with a couple might mean it isn't really fair asking her for half

I voted yabu because I'd have thought you pay per room, not per person, like in a hotel.

But it isn’t a hotel.

I do weekends away several times a year with 2 friends and we always split the cost of 2 room appt by 3. Normally they share and I get a room to myself - but they tell me this is the perk for doing all the searching and booking. DH and I went away with a friend last weekend and again we split all costs by 3.

I think this depends on circumstances. When there are threads about families sharing the responses are usually that the split should be by room.

Equally split amongst the adults is the fairest

And it would be unfair to split per room, because in your room there are two of you using everything else in the apartment.

I think split everything by 3. You will all be using whole of house.

I don’t agree with that completely, you are not just getting a hotel room / bedroom each. There is a living room and a kitchen too and you are sharing this space.

Splitting 50:50 means you pay £750 each and she pays £1500, that seems most unfair to me, I take the point on you both having a bedroom and feel something in the middle would be fairest but that would make the maths a bit more complex / arbitrary.

Three people, so split three ways.

Split three ways .

When sitting on the sofa, will you and your partner squish up into just half the space and leave an entire half to your friend or will all of you get sit properly? It's not hotel so the "room price is the same no matter how many people stay" argument doesn't wash; you'll be sharing all the communal living spaces such as the kitchen and the lounge, share the facilities and the equipment (you and your partner will you twice as many cutlery and crockery than your friend), etc. etc. Therefore, it's only fair that the cost is split equally between all the adults present.

Your other friend is obviously entitled to her opinion; however, she does seem to be in the minority.

The way we've done this before is to approach it in the spirit of goodwill and to avoid petty sub-divisions of costs, so usually more or less three way split. Can sometimes depend on the actual numbers though - one time we went away with a single friend to a 2-bed which was 650 and my single friend suggested she pay 250, and we pay 200 each which seemed fair enough, another time with another friend we were somewhere for a week which cost 900 and we just paid 300 each.

You'd split it 3 ways - it's not like you and your husband would really like separate rooms, you are splitting the rooms up in the way everyone would want and expect. The only real difference in the space you are using is the fact you're are sharing a bed, which again is what you'd want.

Renting a whole shared house is different from staying in a hotel because in a hotel you are literally renting your room, so each couple or single is going to be responsible for just their room.

Your other friend is just transferring the hotel system over to a shared house, which I imagine lots of people might, but they are different.

Assuming the rooms are similar, split 3 way is fair.

Op needs to come back and confirm if her 1 year old coming along too. Because two adults and a baby…. I’d definitely say 3 way between the adults

I’m guessing that you all benefit, cost wise, from sharing. 2/3 of a two bed will cost you and your DH less than the whole of a one-bed, the same sort of benefit for her. Plus her contribution will make the hire car cheaper for you, etc.

You take up more of the living spaces. A 3 way split is fine.

No DD is staying at her grandparents, just 3 adults

Your friend or your husbands?

Both, we hang out with the friend in equal measures.

a close enough friend that for your first child free holiday she will be joining you and your husband. Rather than just you and your husband, you’re bringing along a friend (don’t think I’ve heard of couples first holiday leaving a baby and bringing along one friend to share an apartment with!)

and yet at the first hurdle.. cost. It’s an issue and you’re both thinking the other is unfair.

whatever the outcome… either she’s going to feel hard done by and ganged up against OR you and your husband are going to feel ripped off and she will feel ganged up against

I will be interested in read the multiple threads you (and more likely your friend) start whilst on holiday!

Just seen it was the other friend you’d been discussing the matter with who was “shocked” and but I was surprised at my friend's reaction, like we'd been shafted lol.

If a “friend” made out like this about a very very close friend with whom I was holidaying with…. I would have shut that shit down immediately

A potentially fair way to split it is for your friend to pay the difference between a 1 and 2 bed… unless this is less than a 3 way split.

do all rooms meet equal expectations? Sorry I don’t seem to have come across any answers but in my experience, there is one superior room with facilities, and the other not so… in which case there is a serious need of adjustment in what the 3rd party pays. Regardless of their financial status.

Both have an en-suite.

The third party's room is effectively half the cost of the couples room (which presumably would be the bigger room, if there is a different in size) as it is. I'm not really sure that any serious adjustment needs to be made.

I'd also vote a three way split. If of course between now and then your friend meets someone she wants to bring them too sharing their room then that would need to be revised.