I won't do cards.

[marshmallowcakes]

I just refuse to do cards. Birthday, Christmas. I find it so pointless and a stamp is a pound and a trip to the post office is a pain when I have work etc.

I've stopped sending any cards at all. I thought we were heading into the age of technology. I don't see why cards are lingering about being a thing when we can easily send a fancy and snazzy message with moving pictures and sparkles.

Cards need to naff off, right?

I spend a lot of time choosing cards for friends, either online (but never Moonpig - I want to handwrite them myself) or at museums/galleries when I'm visiting. I have a nice little stash at home. Not just for birthdays either, but thank yous, thinking of you etc. All of my friends live a good distance away, but easy to buy books of stamps in the supermarket and there are letterboxes everywhere. We do text etc, but a card is more personal and thoughtful.

I have cut out a lot of the "duty" Xmas cards tho, and now just send them to people I actually like (😂), usually with a personal letter inside.

Valentine's Day can fuck off as well. Pile of wank.

I work for a card company, I'm waiting to hear if I'll be out of a job as sales dropped pre Christmas, please buy cards

Lots of things have an unnecessary environmental impact. I presume you've rid your house of all toys, ornaments and decorations in that case?

I've just stocked up. Fingers crossed for you. Cards make my day

Lazy and YABU. When your loved ones are gone, it's lovely to have a card they chose and their hand written message is comforting to keep.

I still send cards. Only for close family members Though. My granny and aunts live in Scotland and they love getting cards so I don’t mind the cost/time because I rarely see them but it makes them smile

my mum would disown me if I stopped giving cards to her haha but fortunatly I see her regularly

But I don’t really do cards for friends/work (except for things like new babies/weddings)

I like one for special occasions, like wedding, christening, round birthday, big anniversary, sympathy, condolences. But it is a bit much. There was a thread recently about what foreigners find weird in the UK and cards was on the list.

@marshmallowcakes

Knock yourself out, and go ahead and don't send them if you can't be fucked to.

Make sure you let everyone know though, so people don't waste their time and money on you. And what's more, you wouldn't WANT to get cards would you, seeing as how they are sooooo shit and a waste of time and money blah blah blah. 🙄

Put a post on your facebook page, saying you will never be sending any cards again, and do not want any. You could be extra naff and attention seeking and say you're going to give to charity instead, like other people who can't be fucked to get, and write out a card for anyone! 🙄

I send cards to my neice and nephew who live overseas because uts a nice way of sending a personal message that they can open, read for themselves and keep for a short time if they wish. It's not instead of videocalls etc. I send birthday cards to older relatives who live alone and I can't see on the day (sometimes a small gift eg delivery of flowers as well). I send a small number of Xmas cards, again to relatives who we don't see often as a token gesture with a short personal message. Sometimes I include a picture of the DC. I send sympathy cards.

I don't think they should be compulsory but cards do still have their place, I believe.

I've just written a card.
It's to my aunt, to thank her for Sunday lunch last week. She's 80, and has no interest in anything digital.
I bought it locally, and it's is drawn by a local artist - I consider that a win-win.
I've put a stamp on that I had left over from Christmas. I bought it from the post office, which is a counter in the petrol stn and open to 10pm.
I've included a recipe she asked for, and a photo of the dc, which she also asked for.
I'll drop it in the postbox on my way to work tomorrow - really not a hardship.
On Saturday my aunt will wake up to a nice picture on the card (she frames those she particularly likes), a reminder of a jolly day, a picture and a recipe.
This had cost me a few pines and a few mojitos.
I'm really not sure what the problem is.

This post sums up quite well why it can be difficult for people who aren't bothered for sending or receiving cards to communicate it. Too many people who do like sending them imagine themselves to be taking the morally superior stance with their preference.

Fully agree.

And I don't get sending cards to people you haven't spoken to or seen all year. They're clearly not important to you and vice versa.

I like cards. Prefer a card to a present on my birthday. Easy to buy, easy to send. Cheap. If you find a good one that really suits the person, it is so worth it.

YABU.

Cards show effort, time, consideration, thought and love. Give me a card over a gift any day.

Agree.

My mum and dad like a card. I don’t mind doing it for them.

My elderly relations like cards. So I do them for those people. Because l am not the most important thing in the world.

To the posters questioning my environmental values...

I do whatever I can to reduce my carbon foot print. I'm a minimalist so don't have junk clogging up my home or work spaces. Toys for the child are usually second hand and/or passed on to others. I always try to purchase fair trade and sustainable where possible. Glass vs plastic, wood vs plastic etc but as you are aware it is difficult to avoid all plastics and non recyclables. Taking action where ever possible is more important than sticking your head in sand and doing nothing. My family and I do more than most.

Also, there is no need for me to justify my lifestyle to you. But, if I has said that outright, it would have caused undue amounts of seething and venom. Mumsnet at its best

You're having a laugh aren't ya? People who CBA to send cards are MUCH more smug and supercilious, with a superiority complex, and they act like THEIR decision to not send cards anymore, makes them somehow better, and special, and 'correct.'

They are none of the above. They just CBA to send cards anymore because they're tight-fisted, and lazy.

At least own it and admit it, and as I say, make sure everyone knows, so people don't waste time and money on you, by GASP! sending you a GREETINGS CARD!!! Oh the horror. 😯

I do exactly this. I enjoy sending them to people I love and they send cards back to me. It's a sad world when we don't have 10 minutes to spend on acknowledging the people we love.

100% this. ^ 🤗

My husband refuses to do cards as he eats he sats the things in person or over the phone / social media and if he wouldn't reach out in person then he wouldn't send a card.

He makes exceptions on Mother's Day and my birthday only to get me ones from our son because he knows I like them.

I send cards to just the few I’ve exchanged with for years but most get a Jaquilawson card. The sub is very reasonable considering you can send an unlimited number of very charming animated cards for all occasions for a whole year. The recipients tell me they love them.
There are notecards, too, for when you just want to keep in touch.

I like cards. I make my own. I try to create something personal for each recipient. Cards can be ephemeral art meant to bring two people closer together.

Yabu to use the word naff.

Tabloid clickbait-writers aren't allowed to use proper swear-words.