Can’t go on

[DesperatelyFedUpp]

This is not AIBU sorry, I just don’t know what to do. I have felt so low, tired and utterly joyless for several months. I am 50, have a job which I enjoy two teens and a DH. They’re not perfect by any means but they’re not a bad bunch and I do love them all very much.

nothing too bad has happened to trigger how I feel just daily stresses of life which we all have to deal with.

I no longer do any hobbies which I used to enjoy as I can no longer be bothered, I don’t see anyone outside of work because I don’t enjoy seeing people anymore and I just sit on the sofa when I get home from work. I know it’s boring and there’s plenty I could be doing but I can’t be bothered, I’d rather sit and do nothing.

I finally phoned the GP last week and got a phone call appointment for today but they didn’t call me. I don’t eat much as I’m never hungry and although I enjoy my job I can’t even face going there anymore.

I just can’t go on. Can anyone help me find a way forward? I’ve never felt so utterly useless and pathetic

You sound depressed. There doesn’t need to be a specific trigger.
Call the GP back, explain you did not receive the scheduled call and get another appointment. Just read out your post from here- that gives a great starting point for them.
And have a hug from a stranger who knows exactly what you mean but is out the other side. Things can get better. 💐

Could this be related to menopause? It sounds very similar to how friends have felt at that stage.

You definitely sound depressed. Are you going through menopause, as that possibly could have triggered it. Please try the Doctors again. You can feel better and regain what you have lost, just reach out for help X

So sorry you’re feeling like this OP, please chase up the GP and get your appointment rescheduled.

im sure more knowledgeable posters will be able to offer some advice but are you able to pinpoint why you feel like this? For example do you think it’s straight up depression (in which case your GP should be able to help) or are you burnt out from work? Could you take some annual leave or speak to your boss about doing less (or more!)?

other thing it might be is SAD if you suffer in the winter with it? Might be as simple as taking vitamin D tablets or st Johns wort for low mood?

i can certainly sympathise with the not wanting to do anything - don’t put pressure on yourself to do stuff for the sake of it. Maybe think longer term about something to look forward to like a holiday if that’s an option? Hope you feel better soon

@DesperatelyFedUpp i am so sorry you are feeling this way. If you don’t feel up to doing anything then don’t! Take time for yourself if you can x.

interested how menopause has been mentioned as a factor. Would this apply to peri to does anyone know?

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I think you should get your hormones checked. Could be thyroid. Could be Menopause. Could be low B12. So many things can make you feel low.

Please get onto your GP for testing.

Big hugs. The thing to hold on to is that you will not always feel this way. There is help out there - it may be a bit of a faff initially (phoning the GP to get another appointment for example), but there is help. Take small steps, one at a time. Even if you are not hungry, have something to eat this evening, even if it is a single mouthful of something (I recommend bovril when feeling down - its very heartening!) Think of this as like having broken a leg. It's grim and unpleasant right now, but with time and treatment, it WILL heal, and you WILL feel ok again.

Thanks everyone, I guess it could be menopause related- although I don’t experience the most common symptoms- no hot flushes and I haven’t had a menstrual cycle for over 10 years due to Mirena Coil
I’ll call GP again tomorrow

Hiya @DesperatelyFedUpp how are you getting on? I hope you managed to get hold of the GP

I had these exact symptoms and it was depression. Seek help, it will go away. Good luck.

And I wasn’t menopausal, was 30ish at the time.

🌈🌻hope the surgery rang and have you some support.🌈🌻
Nothing stays the same op,things will improve just take time out and put yourself first.do small things that make you smile.even but some daffodils if you can,a bright cheerful promise of oncoming spring and new beginnings.🌈

Hi, just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone’s kind messages. I saw the nurse this morning and had a chat, she did bloods to test for thyroid and any deficiencies (I can’t remember what she said now!), but she was very reassuring.

I mentioned menopause/ peri and she said blood tests are no longer available for this but it would be discussed if I were experiencing more symptoms. Should get results on Tuesday 🤞

feeling much better today 😊