You cannot make memories

[FelicityFlops]

Just that. The human brain remembers and recalls things that cannot be programmed into it.
Why don't people understand this?
Yes, you can have or give people wonderful experiences, but you cannot dictate that these will become "memories".

Actually i think repetition might make memories. My granny cooked the exact meal every time i stayed, now i cant have any item of that meal without remembering her.

There are lots of irritating phrases out there, why not just say it annoys you instead of all the analysis? Personally I dislike "a little slice of heaven", but not because it isn't literally a piece of heaven! 😂

They'll remember the place, of course they will. And the people they went with. But I've been to a similar event (not at the same place), and I can remember it well without having done it multiple times at the same place.

Nothing wrong with doing the same thing at the same place at the same time of year for multiple years - but it's going to be much harder to remember the details of every trip individually than if you went once. #blurringmemories

I'm sure I saw something on Blue Peter where, with just an empty cornflake box, a clean yoghurt pot, some sticky tape and four or five wine bottle corks you could make a slidey thing for making and storing memories.

However I may have got it a bit wrong, I do tend to forget a lot of things these days.

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It is, but if you do nice things with your DC, they are more likely to have good memories. They can't have happy memories if we don't make an effort.

I like the phrase because it acts as a kick up the backside to me to make sure I took DC out every weekend and played with them and read to them and didn't just let those ntentions slide. They might not remember any of it, but they can;t remember it if it doesn't happen.

They can't have happy memories if we don't make an effort.
Of course they can. Sometimes the most mundane stuff leads to the best, happy memories.

But days out and holidays etc are just part of living life for most people. Not done with any specific intentions.

I don't think so - there are plenty of parents out there who think because they are #making memories, their kids will remember every sandcastle built, every ice cream eaten and every visit to the swings.

I agree, the hot air balloon example given above is likely to be remembered because it is so out of the ordinary. But most #making memories categorically isn't.

People remember what they remember, not what their parents think they should remember.

It is a silly expression and I am with the OP.

if you don't share it on social media did you really make a memory

exactly. It's like going for a run, if it's not on Strava it didn't happen

My friend's dh had such a boring childhood as his parents didn't do anything with them. He also didn't even have many friends. His main memory from his childhood is his mum standing by the front door smoking and chatting with the neighbour that was a regular occurrence.
If we don't make any effort either, our dcs memories might be their mums staring at phones all day

You're being pedantic, and miserable.

I am much more likely to remember a day at the beach (which I have made a conscious decision to do) than a day at home.

Be grateful that a inoffensive (if twee) catchphrase is encouraging more people to enjoy experiences, not stuff.

There really is not.

Have nice days out because they are fun for the children, not because it might make memories.
I remember a fraction of what my parents did with me. And some of that is odd things. Like playing cards as it rained outside, instead of the sunny days on the beach most days my mum said we had on that holiday.

Of course there is.

When I look back on my life I can remember holidays, days out, etc. But I couldn't tell you what I had for lunch last Thursday.

Does it matter? People say make memories as in going out and experiencing things which they’ll hopefully look back on fondly. Not really anything to over analyse about 🤷‍♀️

The phrase "making memories" pure gies me the wet boak but OP is being tediously disingenuous. Everyone knows it isn't used literally.

Total overthink

YANBU OP.

Everyone is obsessed about 'making memories' these days (whatever it means)

Cringey AF