Pints & breastfeeding

[Bashinthecattick]

Was in the pub and this mum walks in. Really cute tiny baby. Got chatting and she told she me had baby 4 days earlier.
Frankly I was astonished she was in the pub and not comatose but good for her if she's happy and can manage. It wasn't a mad rave, but middle of the day, family pub and she clearly felt able.
Sat down, mum on next table. She then went onto order about a pint (at this point I was just in earshot).
But over the next two hours she ordered three more (all alcohol - I was earwigging) and drank them all while breastfeeding.
Ok, yes, I judged. I said nothing, of course. She seemed pretty steady, not slurring etc. Was I an arsehole? Do people do this?

Oh. Sorry!

Seriously, what the hell, judging a new mother. Ready to rage on this thread. Before you posted did you enquire if she was BF I had my third baby (easy birth home in a couple of hours) and fucking yes I had a beer. Not anyones business at all. Why would it be. This post made me so cross. Why the fuck is everyone so fucking judgy these days. Fuxk off and leave then alone. Non of your bloody business

not because of breastfeeding (which people are becoming fixated on)

Breastfeeding is one of the words in your three word title for this thread so you can't really pin this on others. You centred it.

A lot of pearl clutching going on here.

Women have all these rules around lots of things, and pregnancy and babies especially. They know what they are and observe them. They have a drink after nine months of can't eat this, can't drink that, puking every five minutes, labour, stitches the works.

I'd drink a bottle of wine or whatever, get bladdered and hand baby over to the men in the company. Their turn now. The milk can be expressed for just such an occasion, or done on the spot there's no harm in it. Baby looked after - yes.

Time to partyyyyy.

That's fair, as well.

And just to add yes I had a beer and I would never have more than my limit, people have different limits but the stress of just having a baby if the mum felt comfortable in the pub and was happy 4 days post partum leave her be

That's fair, as well.

You're very measured in the face of pushback. Are you sure AIBU is for you?

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I thought in days gone by they advised breastfeeding mothers to drink stout in order to help with milk production?

Oh, I'm incredibly reasonable! I can see all sides of the argument and appreciate it is a subject people are passionate about.

God, didn't realize people were judging me for taking my 4/5/6/7 day old baby out and about with me. He was my little buddy who went where I went.

No one told me you're supposed to become a shut in when you have a baby 🙄

She's not being selfish or neglectful

FFS get a life. What were you doing. When I am out with friends I notice nothing happening elsewhere. You are sad. Even you know it is a stupid thread but still here we are.

Because OP set it up to be about breastfeeding. There was absolutely no need to mention the bf if the point was about general ability to care for a baby when drinking.

Nothing in the OP suggested she was judging a mother for drinking in general and everything that it was about drinking and breastfeeding.

I quite agree it's a lot to drink and care for a child but the breastfeeding aspect of it is irrelevant

I disagree with everyone who is saying its none of her business. Safeguarding children is everyone's business! And a new mum drinking heavily with a new born is irresponsible and a risk. However, its unlikely she would have taken any notice to anything being said to her.

She drank 4 drinks over more than 2 hours and was absolutely fine in care of the baby.

I would absolutely judge because I would be shit faced on 4 pints. On 2 I'm chatting shit and definitely not the best person to take care of a teeny baby.

Well that's a bit silly. You would be - after 4 pints I'd be fine, DP wouldn't even register 4 pints. I mean, as long as you're keeping your judgment to yourself I suppose...

I question your maternal instincts if this is what you look forward to after pregnancy and birth.

Yes, things like alcohol are only for dads, new mums shouldn't do anything that isn't 100% for the baby only.
I actually didn't drink at all for more than 6 months after mine were born, but my goodness. It isn't a selfish desire for alcohol, it's a woman having a few drinks. She wasn't staggering out, leaving her baby on the bar.
I bet no-one would have been so judgmental if it had been the baby's father.

People are often not good at judging how fine they are after a few drinks.

Agree this is ridiculous but I think it does happen, Wetherspoons (or similar) were in the press a while ago for limiting what parents could drink when with their children.

She could probably be fine on 4 pints. It is not out of the fucking question. Seriously you don’t know people who could have more than 4 pints and be fine? Not everyone has the same tolerance and she was fine as I’ve heard no evidence of her being drunk. I couldn’t drink a litre of soda pop but a lot of fat people can and are fine. All about tolerance.

If this is true, yes I would judge. My midwives told me not to eat grapes!